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I am turning 38 and just had my first. You have plenty of time! ❤️
My sister is 48 and she had her first child at 42 (natural conception and no pregnancy issues). She loves having a child at her age because she has her career in order, her finances are set, and she is a totally different and more mature person than she was in her 20s. Her son is an absolute joy to our family!
My parents had me at 40 and my brother 42 and now I am 24 and can see how much they slowed down and got tired. They we’re able to do things with me in high school but by college age they were very tired and didn’t like to travel or do anything. Your lifestyle doesn’t have to slow down with age, they may just have poor health but something to keep in mind having children in your 40’s. Like I barely knew my grandfathers, both died before age 11
Mom had me at 40 and my sis at 38! I’m 23 and far from having a child
My GF is 34. We plan to get married next year. So the earliest we will have a kid is when she is 36. From our research (and as others have indicated) you have plenty of time
Things are happening later for our generation (my ideal age to “settle down” and be a real adult is 35). Don’t feel rushed to do anything you aren’t ready for — you have time
42 almost 43, female
25 is way young to be worrying about this unless you have some kind of extenuating health circumstance. I got pregnant naturally with my first after 3mo of trying (not long at all) at 32, and I’m 38wks along now at 33. Don’t stress.
(Also, I wasn’t married until I was 30! Way better to take your time and find the right person than to settle because you feel your biological clock ticking.)
I was 29 years old and was married to a complete jackass. I was afraid that if I waited until I found the right person that I would be too old. You have plenty of time to find the right person before you have a baby. Anyone who decides “to leave you on the shelf” because they would perceive that you are too old is not worth your time.
This is so insightful, thank you for sharing. My current thinking is that I dont want to wait for “the one” bc if it doesn’t exist then I might end up 45 years old and childless. & because I overwhelmingly want children (more so than a partner), I thought it best to just find someone that I think would be a good dad. I may not love them but if they tick certain boxes, maybe I should marry and reproduce with them.
So it’s super useful to hear your experience and it has certainly given me some food for thought.
I am 24F and worry about being single forever because I don't want kids…
Engaged (and would be married if it weren't for COVID) 30F here. It's very possible to find men who want that DINK life so chin up ❤️
Turned 30 a month after my son was born. 32 for my daughter. Married twice at now 36 looking at a potential third.
There’s no rush. Work on yourself and seek someone who finds you as an equal. Life will happen in between.
I have a cousin who is 3 years old! Her mum is 46 … she was a surprise and an absolute cutie!
My best friend found her partner at 27. She got married 4 years later and will be welcoming a cute mischievous baby soon, if her mom is anything to go by. It was very important that she found the right guy.
OP, age doesn’t matter as much now days. Parents will always pressure us but things have moved on in a way. I am sure you will find the right guy one of these days and I am excited for you as it will be an amazing and memorable moment!!
37 for first and 41 with the second (now 47). Have no regrets as I got to travel the world in my early to mid 30s and now have the fun times of raising two incredible mini versions of me. There’s lots of time, enjoy!
32. Now I feel it was early! There is no magic age…just do what feels right and make sure you are mentally, physically and financially prepared.
Haha, people our age are getting married later than life, so don't worry. There'll be plenty of fish out there.
Heck, I'm 26 myself and know a ton of other single / non-married folks.
The dating pool is full of pee, focus on finding the right person and then have a child with them.
I love your "pee" expression. That made me smile big 🤣😁😘
Freeze your eggs
39. I am happy I got to travel the world and have many adventures before becoming a parent.
Married at 18 and spent the next decade or so focusing on school and career. Took a small break to have a child at 31… and back in the game fully a year or so later. I actually think being an “older” mom is better because I am more level headed and have more resources available to me to raise my kid the way I want.
I was 36 and 38. Planned that way - I’ve been with my husband since we were 25. Easy pregnancies, easy deliveries. Currently 40 and debating whether we want a third. I’m by far not the oldest of my circle to have kids - I think in large cities, having kids at an older age is pretty prevalent.
At one of my first kid’s first pediatrician appointments, I mentioned to the doctor that I was an older mom. She laughed and said “at 36?! I’m 46 with a 2 year old!”
If you’re worried freeze your eggs! It’s expensive b a good insurance policy and something to think about while they are so healthy (for the record I had my first at age 33)
Chill out. I am 37 will probably have one in the next year. Your time will come.