Looking at people’s photos of skiing with their kids, dressing up their kids, making me really want a kid. Why is it so difficult for me? 😢
Father’s Day gift ideas?!
SO beyond frustrated with my work environment I think it may be time to leave for good. I returned from maternity leave after 4 years of working at my very old-school, boys club, nepotism-friendly company. The number of remarks I got on my appearance, my pregnancy and etc was a little annoying before I left, but since I've come back it's been nothing but comments on how they can't believe I'm leaving my husband home with the baby etc. Sorry for the long post just needed to vent!!
I’m 26 now but I want to have two kids around 35. What are some options? I may or may not have a partner then but I don’t want to base this on that. Thoughts? Is it expensive? Should I just get a girl pregnant (kidding...sort of)?
I recently had my first baby and I’m trying to be as practical as possible, I did not get a bunch of baby stuff I just got the essentials, I think they sell you too much unnecessary things. I do appreciate people showing affection with gifts but feel kids now a day are over gifted. Would it be taken wrong if I suggest that for birthdays and Christmas instead of toys people deposit whatever they were going to spend in my baby’s 529 account?
F33 with PCOS. On a keto diet. Meeting my PCP after 3 years. Want to get a full body check. What all tests (especially given am on keto and want to monitor any adverse effects) should I request? Also looking to get pregnant this year. So what should I ask ?
Awk .Ran into a former colleague at first an egg-freezing event for ladies who are spending their peak child-bearing years in consulting, then at dating event. Biological clock. Sigh.
I'm struggling with drafting/creating policies. Is that something that's taught through a certification or I missed in school? How does one get good/comfortable with writing policies or is there a tip I'm overlooking? (e.g. I need to formalize our Maternity leave policy and create a paternal leave alongside)
A child that kicked ,punched and spit at staff and students.He wanted was to go to the principals office. In the principals office he played with Legos, cars and toys. Rewards for bad behavior.
Hardest part of being pregnant (third trimester) is finding enough time in the day to go to the bathroom.
I’m announcing on social media next week that I’m pregnant..should I tell work people ahead of time or let them find out on Instagram? I mean I wouldnt tell everyone at work…but like partners/senior managers?
Wife and I have second child coming and in the market for larger car. We like the Traverse, Enclave and Telluride so far. Should we buy lightly used or lease?
Hey I guess I'm the new kid on the block. Would love to hear some of what's worked and what hasn't for you guys.
Have some Qns:
1. When do people typically do baby showers(what month of the pregnancy)?
2. when are you supposed to share your baby registry?
3. If you opt to do a maternity photoshoot, when is the best time to do it?
4. Are the maternity photos used in the baby shower invites?
First pregnancy and I just feel lost with everything! TIA
Will my internet bills be reimbursed if it is on my father’s name? I am aware that it should be on employee’s name but just wanted to check if the bills got approved when it’s on father’s name. Thanks.
Mamas with more than one kid, what’s the age gap between your children? And now that you’ve experienced it, do you think a different age gap would have been better?
I had my first a few months ago, and while I was sure I’d be one and done, the maternal feeling is now on overdrive 🙃 I’m wondering what would be a good time to try for a second.
I am 38, and the first baby came after two miscarriages so my chances are not great (especially chances of a planned age gap) But it doesn’t hurt to hope 😊
My mother’s B2 visitor visa will expire this year. Can she renew using Dropbox facility? Not sure if B2 renewals are disallowed using Dropbox.
Today is my last day BFing (after building a stash in the freezer). Baby turned one last week and going back to work next week. Cracking open bottle of champagne with hubby tonight and getting drunk😂
Can you get FMLA leave due to a parent going through a depression? How likely will this get approved?
Losing my mind. 3 week old won’t stop crying. Spouse and I are going insane. Our LO barely sleeps for more than an hour and when she’s awake she’s basically always crying. At my wits end.
Feelin’ South American for dinner
I am not sure whether this is the right portal or not still I am going to go ahead with my question. Does anyone know a good online course to enhance coding skills (in R and Python) from the point of view of credit risk Analytics, modelling.
H i Guys need your suggestion,
I am earning 32LPA(CTC) in India , planning to take PR for Canada through consultancy or self is it worth moving to Canada ? What are the pros and cons ?
Tech -- Cybersecurity Tata Consultancy Accenture Infosys Cognizant Amazon Deloitte EY
How to declare NPS in FBP
My fiancé just made Aliyah for med school. Long distance is hard but I love my job/firm culture. I wish I could stay, but I’ll need to switch to a firm that allows working abroad in a year at the latest. In a year, we get married and I make Aliyah too. I’m afraid to tell anyone at my firm. I’m also looking for American companies that pay well and allow employees to live in Israel. Thoughts? Advice?
Can someone please refer me in a good company like IBM, EY, DELOITTE, TCS etc. I have 5.8 years of experience and currently working as technical lead. Skills are : python, Flask, Django, Pandas, rest api, MySQL,mssql, jQuery, ajax.
Thanks in advance.
Does your PA firm require a CPA license to go to manager and above? What firm are you with?
When you ask a patient how many drinks they have per week and they say liike 20, what are your reactions to that? To me it's a young person acting in excess.
What are among the most exciting fraud, financial-crime, and/or forensic roles?
Hi I've just graduated with a Master's Degree and and am currently on a Temporary Graduate Visa. I've been applying for jobs in Management consulting, Audit & Assurance and similar areas but it doesn't seem easy to land one.
I recently got referred at PwC for a graduate advisory role and I was wondering how it works. Will my resume still go through the ATS ? Any help and guidance will be appreciated
Hoping to seek everyone’s advice here!
I recently moved in-house and have more free time to invest in myself. Which direction would you suggest that I look to for growth?
- Data Analytics
I just discovered that Zelda: Ocarina of Time, a game that enchanted me for weeks on end when I was a kid, is ~25mb in size. I honestly can’t believe it—I’ve filed docs in court that are bigger than that. Also, this has nothing to do with biglaw other than that learning how to use emulators is what I’m doing during the tech slowdown. Just beat the Deku Tree!
I know this is going to be sound shallow, “it’s always Deloitte” etc but im going to ask anyway. Has your watch ever gotten you laid before?
Does stress reduces after becoming P?
How is Toronto so hot in Nov…..
I am having a hard time finding reasonably priced apartments. I'm moving from Austin and am not used to NYC rents but 4.5k for a 1BR seems insane. I would also prefer to live by myself. Is this even an option in NYC? What are the downsides of living in Jersey City instead?
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Is anybody thinking about participating in this? https://instagram.com/childfreeconvention?igshid=NmZiMzY2Mjc=
Last night when my wife got home from work, I reminded her to say hello to the dog and she said “I’m so glad we don’t have kids” haha
I've noticed that the people I know who really want kids even though they are single/don't have a SO all came from broken families (divorced parents or dad left). Have any of you noticed the same trend?
So I've been with my significant other who I love to the moon for the last 5 years & we're getting married in August. We've both always been on the same page about wanting kids one day but now, I've found myself wanting kids less and less. Anyone else been in this place? How did you approach it with your SO?
Cue friends with kids leaving me on read at 3pm on a Friday. Message with you next week, I guess. Really starting to see that I just need to move on from these friendships.
When do you have conversation about not wanting kids in the future when start dating someone new? Late twenties F dating late twenties M, not exclusive yet. I think I am afraid to bring it up to learn that they want kids in the future and I will have to end it after that. I don’t want to date just to date and waste my time. I know I need to do it but damn! I mentioned it in a passing but did not have a concentrated conversation about it. How are you all deal with this?
My friend comes over with his daughter (6) who frequently runs and does cartwheels in my home. I told my friend I don’t like it and his response was that’s she’s bored and I need to be more patient with kids. Since when did asking parents to have their kids respect your space a problem?
And yet, people are still having babies 😭🤦🏻♀️ we're all doomed https://www.vice.com/en/article/7k87gy/alaska-canceled-snow-crab-season-for-the-first-time-ever-because-all-the-crabs-are-gone
At a work dinner party, someone I barely know just all the sudden started with questions like ‘you never wanted children?’ And ‘would you consider adopting?’ What happen to small talk regarding weather and fun weekend plans?
I've been dealing with anxiety / depression for over 4 yrs. My husband has also been fighting disassociation and depression for just shy of 4 yrs.
What can I do to support him when I'm having a low? I can hardly manage work, let alone the housework. It's so hard to try and be a supportive wife. I have no energy and just want to be a recluse.
We need help! We're both on SSRIs and they seem to help but not enough to keep us afloat. We just moved to a new area and have no doctors or therapists.
Omg I did not know there is this bowl! I am kinda giving up on dating because I barely meet anyone who wants childfree 😞
Hi fellow CF friends! I emailed FB and they said the link to join this bowl should be working now. I would like to test it out but the link always worked for me so I won’t notice a difference. If someone is willing to help me do so, please let me know! Would love to continue to grow this bowl ☺️
I just found this tax info out which only hurts unmarried individuals and benefits married. I wanted to sell my home due to equity in it at todays listing prices and apparently if a single individual, any home that sells more than 200k over your original purchase price you have to pay a huge capital gains tax… now,if your married they give you a 400k differential and anything over that you pay capital gains. Ex. Unclear of why this tax law hasn’t been updated? Wow! It’s an extremely biased
Do you feel like nowadays more men than women want kids? Considering they suffer less negative effects physically, socially, and career-wise.
I was 8 years old: my mom saved a school assignment from 2nd grade where I wrote, "When I grow up I want to be a writer. I don't know if I want to get married. I do not want children."
As a woman in the US it's often difficult to get sterilized. I have a doctor who will do it finally, but insurance won't cover it and since it's considered major surgery with a hospital stay, I need to pay big $$ out of pocket.
I’m not arguing with you. The way you wrote your comment implied your experience is what “usually” happens for everyone. But what you describe is not what usually happens. I wasn’t sure if you knew that or not, hence my comment. Majority of these procedures are done with a laparoscope and are outpatient procedures and are covered by insurance.
Honestly, I think I knew my entire life. I am 32F. It’s just I Had to start verbalizing it since 22 years or so.
I've always thought I wanted kids until the last couple of years. I've started to realize how much I enjoy lifestyle and the cost having kids would have on that. I have absolutely never had any desire to be pregnant. I'm in my mid-late 30s and have actively avoided pregnancy my entire sexual life because regardless it's never been the right time or relationship. My biggest concern is that this is a phase and I'll blow out the clock, but as of now it's something I have started discussing more openly with friends and family (i.e. that I'm not sure I want kids).
SVP 1, trust me, above sounds like a nightmare to happen. He’ll be the fun dad, doing whatever he feels like it, throwing nap and food schedule to the wind, not a reinforcer or disciplinarian. That leaves you being the nagging drill sergeant. You won’t be looking after just the kid, but the kid and your partner. Add that to the pressure of putting food on the table and can safely wave any romance away. Notice how your partner isn’t marching your contributions in important sectors: financial and child rearing. You know in heart of heart you will do majority for both and he’ll just be cruising. So, be smart about it. Don’t do the one thing that will tie you to him for life, leaving you with no clean exit plan. And if you or him file for divorce, guess what, with a kid in the picture, you will be paying Him alimony, since he will seek joint custody to continue to be a “fun doting father.”
I knew by the time I was in middle school. I haven't gotten my tubes tied, but I've been on birth control for 15 years. Also, my husband had a vasectomy (before we met), so I know I'm at minimal risk of getting pregnant.
Late teen years. Waiting on getting engaged before the vasectomy (my views on kids also revolve around who my partner is and what life we want to build together)
I remember knowing when I was 10, but probably even earlier than that. I think high school was when I first voiced it to other people. I’m 34 and married, and still don’t want kids and don’t regret my decision.
Late 30's. Got a vasectomy in my early 40's.
My reasons were:
REASONS TO NOT HAVE CHILDREN
• Child rearing has been described as, "Like running a nursery with someone you used to date".
• I have neither the time nor desire to take on an 18+ year-long project as, inter alia, investor, security guard, chef and chauffeur. Children require an enormous investment of time, effort and money, with mixed rewards and high risks.
• Worst case, they are disabled or ill. Best case, they are delightful, but time and money black holes. E.g. both toddlers and teenagers can be a nightmare. In terms of whole life costs, it’s a poor ROI.
• I changed careers to become a lawyer for freedom and independence. Kids sabotage that.
• A statistically significant % of parents, including several friends, regret have children. I would be in that group.
• Divorce with children can be catastrophic, so breeding increases existing relationship risks.
• Objective studies (Kahneman, 2004, Gilbert, 2006, Powdthavee, 2009) evidence that parents are “less happy” – but posit in consolation that some are “more satisfied”. Career, money, peace & quiet, and independence satisfy me. Perhaps I’m shallow.
• I have over 1,600 unread Kindle books, and will likely die before reading them all. Children would only exacerbate the challenge.
• I want to regain a sub 3-hour marathon time. This requires focus and time: children would again be a distraction.
• I have many professional/career goals I would like to pursue. While I won’t achieve all of them (if I did, I wasn’t being ambitious enough), children would again be a distraction.
See also: "Having a kid is probably my biggest life regret: ‘Wife concurs’", Sydney Morning Herald, 29 May 2021, https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/having-a-kid-is-probably-my-biggest-life-regret-wife-concurs-20210525-p57v3b.html
I’m delighted for all my friends who do have children, and I enjoy seeing them regularly and buying them presents etc. I am however also quite content when I leave, and peace and quiet resumes! Each to their own 😊
Excellent response fellow lawyer!
As early as I can remember. None of my dolls were my children, they were my nieces or nephews or cousins or friends but never my children.
27 was when I realized I was for sure childfree. Even before that, I never had a desire for a kids and a family
By the time I was 18 I was sold. I’m in a solid relationship (4yrs now) with a partner who also shares my view. Had a vasectomy two years ago at the age of 26. Close friends and co-workers know, but parents are out of the loop. Don’t need to crush their hopes and dreams just yet. We are however god parents to one of my best friends, should that happen to become relevant we will work through it.
Late 30s F here. I think on some level I’ve always know. Even playing with dolls I never had one as my “baby” (my mom talks about that) and I def told my parents in elementary school and questioned if that was ok since the only adults we knew that didn’t have kids “wanted them badly but it wasn’t going to happen for them naturally”. I was on birth control and now have an IUD. Might now look into my partner getting a vasectomy.