How to deal with a coworker who message you everyday about every single thing they do? He would message me the second I log into work. He would tell me all about the clients he’s working on, what’s going on with each one of them, and I never asked about any of them....This is quite mentally draining for me but he is also one level above me so I just try to not be too annoyed. Not sure what I should do...

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This guy needs a therapist or more friends to vent to lol

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Yeah, he actually sees a therapist for his depression and also has a girlfriend...but yeah I’m only being polite because he’s in a higher position and can mess with my performance ratings but I do ignore his messages a lot and hide offline sometimes. But even without my responses, he would continue messaging as he thinks of more things to say lol

“Haha” “oh” “I see” are great conversation enders. If all else fails, “be right back” and never pinging him again should work.

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I actually do this a lot!! It makes me feel really bad some time but it just hurts my own mental health too much. But he does this multiple times a day every single day. Sometimes I pretend to take PTO while working offline lol

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I have a staff that comes to me for questions and 95% of the time it's about clients I've never worked on and I'm not their senior. As long as they're not your direct superior, stop responding or don't respond as quickly. We don't have time for this.

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I see. Most of the time, my coworker isn’t asking for help. He’s just sharing random things that happen throughout the day. For example, he once told me how he needed to call the IRS but he doesn’t wanna talk to people so he’ll make his staff do it. The end. That’s all he said out of the blue. I was just like ok and ignored...but those are the type of stuff he says all day everyday. Plus, he’s a level above me but he does sometime ask me for help on technical questions...I’m like shouldn’t you know more? Lol

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Does he have a crush on you? Or maybe they are trying to build relationship or trying to show that they care about your well-being?

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I don’t think so since he has a gf and knows that I have a bf as well. I’m not sure. Maybe it’s just me but he usually just talks about himself so I’m doubtful that’s it is for my own good.

Is he maybe unaware that you are uninterested i.e. he is not good at picking up on the social cues?

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I’ve had coworkers like that in the past. I reply when I have time, but if I don’t I’d either not reply or say “sorry, busy morning - don’t have time to chat right now”

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Doesn’t matter if he’s a level above. Just say so sorry I gotta finish soemthing asap. Be back later.

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