How to deal with a project where SC, M, and SMs are all besties who are also outrageously incompetent and bully us daily?

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I have no tolerance for people who blame others for their screw ups. I am pretty assertive about that kind of thing. I am senior now, but I was politely assertive about that sort of thing when I was junior, too.

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I had a similar experience on my first project with the firm. Two pronged approach: 1) Whenever I sent a deck to my manager I sent it attached to a calendar invite for Review Time so I blocked her calendar. Also invited myself to the "meeting." Once the review time I blocked on her calendar passed, I would ask "Hey, did you get a chance to review...? What did you think?" etc. 2) I rolled off the project. Managing up is an important skill to master.

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Haha sounds like the dream team

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You're not explaining the situation very well. Are you sure you're not the problem?

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Trust but verify, OP. CYA well in advance by asking whether the deck has been reviewed and forwarded, and if there's anything that you can do to help. In the absence of being copied on the email to the client, chase politely when there's still a chance to meet the deadline. They shouldn't blame you for their incompetence, but then again, sometimes emails get missed in the shuffle.

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Imagine managers who are terrible at basic project management. Now imagine a senior manager who are dictatorial BFFs with the managers. Basically they fuck up and we get blamed for it.

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Leave Deloitte?

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Bully or push around? Because you will get pushed around as a BA regardless. You are at the very bottom of the food chain. You need to be patient, work hard and learn.

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Your counselor is probably the best route

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Good managers hoard blame and pass out credit like it is a hot potato

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@D7 I'm in Rosslyn. The example I gave was just the latest in a consistent pattern of this bullshit. My counselor is aware as are SMs I work with often, but this shit is going to burn me. I was thinking that maybe I would calculate what 80% of my hours come out to and then request a snapshot for literally just that and no more to try and downplay the impact of this. What I can't wrap my mind around is just how pervasive this is! My teammates and I are shell shocked bc we've just never seen this and it's the entire leadership... we have no fucking recourse except nuclear options.

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If they were incompetent then managing up should be easy.

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We get blamed by the SMs. For example we are told not to send things directly to the client and to send things through managers. Reasonable, so we do just that. The managers then forget to review it or even pass it on to the client and it sits in their inbox. We don't know that it never made it to client, so come time for the weekly check in, the client complains they don't have the deck. We later get yelled at by the SMs even though they know it was not us. We can't say shit back bc the repercussions to fighting back are poor snapshots.

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Posts like this remind me why I left uncle D

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Op. Send your last snapshot (ask them to do it asap) and ask to roll off prior to the new PY (no later than the min. hours where you would need a another snapshot). Find a solid reason. Tell your counselor ASAP. They can't talk bad about you if the previous snapshot was good so no worries for YE. If they do talk bad about you that means they have you a bad snapshot anyway. No counselor would be good snapshot but a story about how bad you are. You need to build networks now, if this is true, they are not the ones you need to build it with.

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Let's chat tomorrow in conference room B, Alan.

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@OP I went to Rob

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Advisory doesn't have these problems

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@D8 not true

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@D8 it's an advisory led project and staffed project. This is just a case of a mean click of bullies that's gone along for way too long without ever being checked, it can happen anywhere.

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