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How to deal with jealousy over friends and peers getting amazing job offers amidst my struggle to find a new role? It keeps happening and today my friend informed me he’s leaving for a 35% pay raise. I’m making 50K less than him now and feel criminally underpaid by my lackluster company.

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Ask them for resume tips, how they approached applications, and interviews? Also get a referral? Not sure why this makes you jealous...your friends can set you up for the same opportunities

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I agree that it doesn’t make sense. I’m a huge overachiever and perfectionist so I think that’s why it gets to me. I’ll keep grinding and try to get a referral if that feels right. In the meantime I need to find a way to get past these feelings

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Recognize that you’re a completely different individual with your own unique set of skills and experiences. The comparison is the ego talking. And maybe you deserve higher compensation, but you won’t know until an offer with your name on it gets slid across the table.

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Comparison is the thief of Joy. You do you OP, it all works out.

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Don’t get jealous, make them jealous. Start job searching and get that shiny new job.

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I like this approach!

This was me, now I’m on the other side, your time will come OP🤗 Jump for the right one! (I debated taking another offer that was not great just for the change. Waited a few months and got an offer 20% higher)

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*five different firms, only one of them had a second round and I didn’t make it

I've said it before and ill say it again, never count another man's money

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If they are friends, ask them for help on how they're doing it. We all need to lift each other up, we're all in this together.

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I can relate to this.

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Same, I make <100k and my best friend recently got an early promote as an associate in IB and now making >300k total comp with 2 YOE. I also got passed up for promotion last year so I’m not doing so hot. It kills me every day...

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What God has for "you" is just for "you." Be happy for them. Your time will come.

God has carrot cake in the fridge for me. And it's only for me

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- Your time will come, hopefully soon and you will shine - In the larger scheme of things you will catch-up on the pay too - Don’t let work validate your life - Speak with your friends and listen to their advice truly open minded. It is very easy to not take advice from equals seriously given subtle ego. I have a friend + colleague who was recently let go. I know she needs some help that I can offer, I try pinging her and she’d just say shes nearly there and thinks she’s ok. I know she isn’t, but just wont open up.

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