How to deal with overdramatic indian parents? My parents get upset very easily over small things especially when it involves my wife. Btw, she genuinely respects them. Today, my mom got upset about something that happened 2 yrs ago (my wife was in India for a week for some work, and she didn't visit them as she was 3 hrs away from them). I tried talking, but it's hard to convince them to see the brighter side of things. How to deal with this situation? Shall I speak to my wife or stay out it?

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I don’t get these posts. You should know your parents !!! Or were you adopted after marriage ?!

Talk to them ,man. Just because you have internet, it doesn’t mean you should crowdsource how to manage your family. Dear god

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EY2 - are you married?

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Note- I had a love marriage.

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You cannot avoid it , just learn not to react. Everyone has a point to make so just respect the thought

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There is nothing to speak to your wife about. Like you said your mother is being overdramatic. In my experience ignoring works best, any attention only feeds this pattern and makes it continue

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Talk to your parents if you don’t want any resentment from your wife in the long term. You know your parents are being dramatic but you grew up with them so you know them the best. Figure out a way to talk to them and explain. I don’t understand what will you talk to your wife about?

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Stay out of it. Woman here. I would LOVE it if my spouse defended me in front of his parents but most of the times he doesn't, he'll just keep quiet. But, the good thing he does is, he doesn't bring it to me. Or else, it would've been something else!

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A1 sounds like a thug..😆

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I was in the exact same situation. Tried talking to parents / wife and things only got worse. I just started ignoring these comments from parents. And told my wife to ignore these comments too. My wife was very persistent though. She would call up my parents and talk to them nicely irrespective of what my parents said (and ignoring the BS). Now they are best buddies.

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I completely empathize you. In my experience, parents over 50 have a very less tendency to change. So just listen to what they have to say and most importantly sympathize with your wife. Tell her that you acknowledge this problem and fighting with parents isn’t going to solve anything. Listen and don’t react to parents as if it’s a very small and unimportant thing. Slowly they realize it’s a waste of time. Parents just need some attention at times.

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You need to talk to your parents and tell them to calm down. It might be a difficult conversation but so what. There’s no reason to hold petty grudges.

Story of every desi household! Better to ignore and stay out. It’s something that you will never win. One day they are the best buddies and the next day they are fighting over something trivial.

Omg no. Ignoring is not correct. It’s not fair that the wife has to face resentment from his family just because he doesn’t have the guts to stand up to them. He needs to put an end to this nonsense.

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My husband and I tried “talking” to his parents so many times but toxic folks never change. We did this together and separately. Now we just ignore the BS and all of us are happy

I was told this many years ago and totally agree with it. A mother in law and daughter in law cannot get along because they love the same man. Similarly, grandparents and grandchildren always get along as they have a common enemy. You cannot fix this design flaw and better to play both sides and stay out of controversy

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