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How to deal with sexist client? I have no issue dealing with my own team, but the client either addresses the partner or the seniors in my team (all male). I am the engagement mgr and he hasn't ..

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Work with your team. Have them defer to you.

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Have you mentioned it to your seniors on the team? Ask them to thoughtfully refer to you in those situations where appropriate. You are all teammates after all.

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One thing that can happen is that as you get more senior and farther away from the details of the work, you may speak with less confidence about the answers to your clients questions. Make sure that you have the answers and speak with confidence. Speak directly to the person who answered the question and ask if they would like more detail. If they ask for detail you can’t provide, look directly at the more junior person on the team and ask them to share the detail but once they finish, you close out the conversation, asking if the question was fully answered and moving the dialogue along. Also, remember that you don’t have to answer every question to be the authority figure within your team...you just have to be the one seen as managing the conversation and owning the outcome.

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All I can say is to speak with confidence. And if a comment is directed to someone else and they don't defer to you to answer, just step in and answer. Don't wait for a client to care.

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Called my name. EVER. We are in a meeting that I am presenting and he has a comment. He looks at a male and gives his comment.

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That happened to me with a client. Then over time I became the most respected voice in the room and he kept extending me. Are you attractive? Perhaps he’s just intimidated and needs time to get over it.

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This has been an issue for me, as it brings down my credibility, but it has nothing to do with my work. I've done this type of projects multtime and my firm considers me an subject matter expert. It is definitely not the quality of my work.

The partner always refers to me, and my team refers to me most of the time, but even in that case if he has a follow-up question he refers to them again.
Also, I am very average looking :)

I’d say answer the questions that you are the lead on regardless of who he directs the question to. At some point he’ll get it unless he’s deliberately trying to be passive aggressive, in which case he’s a jerk and you should just get through the project and move on. If you really wanted you could ask the male team member who he’s directing questions to, to specifically say something to him along the lines of "Bob, since Lisa here is the engagement manager you should probably direct most of your questions to her, and I’ll jump in as needed”

Yeah - bring this up with the partner (confirm they realize it) and ask for help brainstorming solutions. ZS1 has a good one.

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