How to do stop comparing yourself with others?

I struggle a lot with my path in life and my career choice. I didn't come from a wealthy family, and was a bit of a late bloomer.

Even on fishbowl there seems to be a focus on a great career is MBB, Investment banking or tech company vibe.

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There are plenty of ways to be successful and happiness should be your gage not assets and income and job title. The MBB, IB, Big 4, and Tech firms have countless employees who are burned out, insecure, and in therapy just like the rest of us.

I always compared myself to others and constantly felt like I was underachieving my potential. I was comparing my accomplishments to others around me.

I still struggle with this at work but I have started to put a higher premium on my actions and behaviors that I know make me feel good like going for a run, reading a good book, sending someone a random text to say something nice, being a good person.

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