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How to keep mother and MIL apart? Wedding in 7 weeks, moms hate each other. Both sets of parents live close by. Dreams of having them all get along in the future have been reduced to dust. Now just trying to make it through the wedding and keep them apart for the rest of my life. And pray they let me and my husband build our own lives.

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recipe for a disaster ....indian marriages are not just between 2 ppl ..its two families.....when they already hate each other ....back out of this alliance assuming its an arranged marriage...if its love ' God bless you'

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Let us know how that goes

You have got to move away from them! As far as possible

Why do they hate each other?

Give them completely different areas to manage. Eg mil takes care of traditional stuff , mom takes care of entertainment. Try to keep them apart

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