How to overcome the pain of seeing someone you had feelings for get into a new relationship

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Stop thinking about new relationships. Think about inner peace and emotional independence. Then a new relationship.

Dont follow them, don’t observe. Try to keep yourself busy. Easier said than done. … I am dreading this too. That’s why decided to not stay in touch/friends w ex

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