How to professionally break manipulative work relationships with your co workers and management?

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Uhm explain a little more perhaps? This seems like a really sensitive situation I wouldn't qualify it as normal. Have you taken it up with HR?

Do you have an HR department? This seems like right up their alley

It's a bit harder to get out of a dynamic like that once you've given in to it. It's better to set clear boundaries from the start and protect yourself from manipulation

With co workers AND management? Everyone there is taking advantage of you? You might want to quit that job

There will come a time when you need to break away from a manipulative work relationship. This could be with a co-worker or boss who is constantly trying to control your every move. It can be difficult to do, but it is important to do so in order to maintain your own well-being and professional reputation. Talk to them and draw your boundaries where you need, no one should be stepping over you.

Remain calm and polite. Even if the person you are breaking away from is being very manipulative and aggressive, it is important to stay calm and polite. Raising your voice or becoming argumentative will only make things worse and could damage your professional reputation.

Make sure you have a solid plan in place. Before you break away from the relationship, it is important to have a solid plan in place. This means knowing what you will say and how you will say it. You don't want to leave anything up in the air and end up looking like you don't know what you're doing.

Be direct and honest. When breaking away from a manipulative work relationship, it is important to be direct and honest. Don't beat around the bush or try to sugarcoat things. Just state plainly what is happening and why you are leaving. This will help avoid any confusion or misunderstandings.

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