How to you move onto a new relationship and establish trust in people again after being in a relationship with a female narcissist that ended? FWIW 30M, this was the only relationship I’ve had.

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This is a hot take (sorry) because I came across a guy I really liked on a dating site who got ahead of his healing, and now I have to recover from it (small heart sucker punch, not heartbreak). He contacted and pursued me as if he was in a healthy place, and then dropped this bomb on me after I got attached. We had a super strong connection. But he should not be pursuing anyone as if he is available.

Narcissists cause a lot of damage and it takes time to recover from dealing with them. If you engage people before you are ready and able to trust, you will cause unnecessary hurt to people who believed you were emotionally available. It’s okay to make friends and seek out FWB or whatever you can handle. But be clear with people immediately about where you are so that you don’t end up being the person they can’t trust.

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Thanks, EY1 🙏

Give yourself time to heal first.

That’s fair and no problem. Enjoy your freedom and mental health

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