How transparent are folks with family & friends re: your fertility journeys? We’re still in the early stages of TTC but found out that I need to get surgery to remove a fibroid which is setting us back about 4-5 months. Debating on whether I want to tell my friends & family. Considering the pros (support, transparency) and the cons (once surgery is over they might keep asking where we’re at, they worry)

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We didn’t share with close friends and family. It’s was stressful for me and I didn’t want to stress my family. And I don’t need friends support: I have psychologist. I need friends for joy.

Not at all transparent. People don't need to know, this is our stress and our worry - there is no need to involve them and then lose track of who we've told and who knows nothing. It's just too much on top of what you already have to deal with. BUT, it is completely up to you. If you need emotional support, go for it. For me, my husband and my therapist are enough.

Didn’t share at the beginning, but did share after a year of trying with no success. Ultimately part of that was to get the insensitive comments to stop / people to stop asking when we were going to have kids. I feel like it was the right move for me, but get that everyone is different.

I had to tell everyone immediately or I was going to die. If I had to bottle it all up I seriously would have killed my husband, been fired from my job and all the in between. For me it was just so good to get my struggles out in the open. It was such a stressful time for me and I couldn’t struggle in silence. For me it was cathartic, I understand as bad that’s not for everyone. But once you start talking about it, everyone comes out of the woodwork with their stories and so many have been there too and I found that comforting.

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