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How will my fellow Desis see an unmarried woman adopt a child? Is it gossip material?Anyone adopted as a single parent?

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Desis will gossip about anything and everything. So you do you.

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This 👆 Everyone will always find some reason to gossip, be negative and complain. It’s a sickness in our culture. I know someone from grad school who has done something similar. She knew motherhood was her primary goal in life and she didn’t want to leave it up to the chance of finding the right partner. I commend her because I think waiting or setting for the wrong partner to have a child is worse than doing it alone. If you have the finances and family support I’d say go for it. If it’s going to be just you and struggling to make ends meet, then probably not a good idea.

Everything is gossip material to the aunties. Just do you and live your life.

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Nah I don't care

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I will be proud and bow down to the new mother ..

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Gossip for sure.

No gossip, but is it allowed legally? Also, adoption law vary in each country and their applicability is based on your citizenship/residency status.

Why not? Maybe we are living under the covers, there would be plenty out there who have adopted. I personally know friends who want to adopt or have atleast thought about this and really do not care. I understand this could be a challenge in smaller cities but metros who cares

Girl! You do you and don't even consider what people will say. "Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehena!" I'd have so much respect for anyone who chooses to raise a kid as their own, single or as a couple! 🥰

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