How would you identify what your needs are from your SO?

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Interesting! I more need to filter my needs to my SO and occasionally when it’s a difficult topic I have trouble building up the courage to bring up my needs. What isn’t difficult is coming up with needs . I guess I’m needy, but I often notice needs just living life. I will think I wish my SO communicated this way or I wish he’d do this with me or today I need this. Notice when you feel frustrated and reflect back why. Take some time alone and notice if there are parts of your relationship that don’t feel as whole as they should. Dig deep and then be brave enough to communicate them.

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This is so useful, I've never voewed it this way so thank you for sharing!

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