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HR keeps trying to paper me up with speed to output crap because they think I’m sick, but the reality is that I’m terminal and probably won’t be around to see the end of this. God I hope they don’t pretend to put up a caring memorial when I’m gone.

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What does “paper me up with speed to output crap” mean? I’m confused

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Sorry Op that you’re going through this

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OP - I am a managing director and partner at BCG. It is unfathomable to me that leadership would try and force someone out who is terminally ill. I would only expect to support. I recommend that you get time ASAP to speak with your office lead and be open about the situation, if you are comfortable. I think you would be very surprised by the level of support and empathy you got. If you are not comfortable going to the OL or someone in the firm in a non-anonymous way (a senior Mentor, etc) then there are ways to drag this out for a year (Flex 20 to US, then coast until transition, then extended transition). But I think the honest way is the way to go. Values matter a great deal to the leadership of this firm.

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I get it... but having to look at the people that have not been kind to me in the face and offer up news of near-term mortality as a bid for better treatment seems wrong. “Please treat me well” is not a comment I should have to say to a company like this. For an example watching a limping person cough then treating him/her poorly incurs wrath, but knowing that might be the last few coughs or limps in that person’s life suddenly makes them switch masks to play the role of kind or ethical people. I am unwilling to expose myself to that duality. I don’t want to see that side of humans right now. I will do what I need to do to protect my eyes from watching that act. As it accelerates south faster I’ll transition and ghost. This firm has no empathy, and I’m not going to put forth my private matters to them only to watch them act empathetic. I and every unwell employee across the range deserve better. If you’d like to help me then lead the reform of how BCG handles disabled or unwell employees. “We aren’t running a charity” are the last words I’ll allow myself to hear. No more nasty sentences. I need to shield myself.

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I am so sorry about what you are going through 😢

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OP - do you have life insurance? If you do, you should check if it has a terminal illness rider which allows you to accelerate a portion of the death benefit while you are still living. Maybe get a couple of credit cards and use that to fund things as long as no one is on the hook for them and no one is dependent on your life insurance proceeds. Very sorry to hear this, but you don’t want to spend your last days working crazy hours. Might be worth asking if there is a way to keep benefits but reduce workload.

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We have unlimited sick days and short term disability insurance - why not take advantage? We would not fire you for being sick

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You should report that to the ombudsman immediately (anonymously if so). It’s both morally wrong and very stupid for us to do something like that. I’ve seen us support people through major illness (loss of limb use, major accidents, cancer) and so I don’t know why this would be any different

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Sorry to hear this OP

Op I am so sorry to hear this. Are you able to go on sabbatical at BCG? My firm allows for this as unpaid leave but we get to stay on the health insurance plan. Hoping this is an option for you so that you can spend more time doing what you want to do.

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Document everything OP, evidence is always good to have especially if they are taking the approach of talking about your outputs and work rate. I’m wishing you the best !!

Thanks. If they do this and I’m out because of it I’m not fighting anything. I’m not going out fighting. We’ll just get it in the next life.

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