Husband and I are both consultants. We hardly see each other except weekends, and even then he is cold/distant. We have a 1 year old baby. I'm so lonely and struggling to be happy again.

If LinkedIn and Reddit had a child, Fishbowl would be it. Or at least that’s my first impression…Hello All!

Moms with anxiety: how do you do it? Husband and I want to start a family soon, but the thought of managing my own anxiety while raising a human is terrifying 😱

I returned to work from maternity leave on Monday and was laid off yesterday from the 50% layoff.
I am looking for my next opportunity as an HRBP in the bay area. Preferably a remote/hybrid role. I have 5 years experience
TIA!

Met this guy through friends a few years back. He made me feel really special, told me he was going through a bad patch with his gf at that point. Things happened between us in a couple of months and

F here. I’ve had trouble in relationships because idk how to fight healthily. I’ve been going to therapy for it but I’m struggling atm because my boyfriend who I love so much, I’ve brought to his breaking point with my anxiety fueled approach. I don’t blame him. A lot of this stems from watching my parents & their toxic fights. I want to change not only for myself but for him, because I believe he is worth changing for. But has anyone ever gone through this & made it out better?

My closest friend of 15 years told me she's been in love with me for several years. I don't know what to do. She's my closest friend. We talk about everything under the sun. I don't want to lose her. I could feel the pain in her voice as she told me this. She already knows she's just a friend to me. I'm serious about my girlfriend and we've discussed getting married. Is there anything I can do to lessen her pain and preserve the friendship?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Desi Fam,

I suffer from depression and anxiety. Been facing it through past year now. Have tried all natural methods but no success. Also pandemic hasn’t made it easier as well.

Lot of pressure from family to get married but with my state of mind, not so much inclined. (M29).

Family thinks it good to move back to india and try afresh but the prospect of not been able to get good salary job/ and sabotaging a career that I made gives me more anxiety.

Hi all, I’m looking to re-enter the workforce. I had to take a career pause @ the beginning of the pandemic because I had a child. I have 5+ years of experience in life science (bench top, pathology in a hospital, startup, and most recently clinical research). I’d like to make a slight pivot into a health informatics, clinical data or data analytics position but I’m also open to non clinical research positions like regulatory/quality assurance etc. Does anyone have any recommendations? TIA

What was your dream job when you were a kid/teenager?

My son wants to study the same as me, he is only 12 years old, but he has an immense love for biology. In spite of how flattered I feel I can't stop thinking how difficult it is to find a stable job in this profession, is it time to talk about it, or do I wait for a little longer?

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Anyone made the move to NYC recently? Maybe moving for work but won’t be going in every day to this office. Don’t have a strong social network there. Is it a hard to place to start as new and make friends?

Looking for recommendations of things to do in Boston for the long weekend! Parent and Pet friendly suggestions please!

Help! When would you disclose a pregnancy during the interview process?

Hi all, I was recently contacted by a headhunter for an incredible opportunity at a great startup.

I've always wanted to work for a startup and the product is awesome. I have made it to the last round. I am also 7 months pregnant (visible) and the last interview will be in person at their headquarters.

Should I say something before coming into the office for the last interview?

Booked a trip (flights/Airbnb) before I found out I was pregnant. Having terrible morning sickness/nausea, and don’t think I can make it. Anyone have luck getting reimbursed or at least credited?

Are people continuing their cleaning services during covid? How are you making sure it's "safe"?
My SO is in the high risk category plus he's Uber paranoid. We haven't had our cleaning person come in since Mar. Back then, I told my spouse I'm not doing it & he said he'd do it and I shouldn't call the cleaning person.
10 months fast fwd, he really hasn't done anything (I'm not surprised) and the house is a mess despite me cleaning from time to time.
Want to understand others handling this.

Do desi couples stay in love after a decade of marriage? I feel I am around for kids. It’s just a little apathy and a lot of not able to understand each other. We both are good with kids and they are young. We hang out together with the kids but lately have had very little to connect as adults. Is this common?

Can anyone suggest to me any good sites to find remote jobs in the US which pays around $60k to $120k annually.

YOE - 3.2
Tech stack- git jenkins docker Kubernetes AWS ansible.

Non-MBA experienced hire with 2 years, federal, C level: 86k. Where am I in the salary band?

Curios to know if the RE bowl think there will be a crash in RE prices since it was at a peak for the past couple years, a lot of realtors are saying no it won't but a fisherman won't say his fish is stink so I don't put much weight on their opinion. Also I am thinking these ppl that are paying way above the asking price for some properties will lose once the value in some of these properties drop. That's just my 2 cents, curious to know yours.

What’s a typical on-shore team size for a BCG PL? Are they managing one 1-2 work streams and thus 1-2 junior resources? Or is it more than that?

How do you look after your sore feet after standing all day? I think my age is starting to catch up with me.

I just accepted a SM role with SF.com for around ~230k TC. Wondering if I sold myself short or if it is in ballpark. Any thoughts ? This doesn’t include a signing bonus

Resignation dilemma: after working in a small immigration/family law firm (2 attorneys) for almost 4 years with only a 5% salary increase in that time, I was recruited for a larger family law firm (9 attorneys), offering better benefits and a 45% pay increase, but less flexibility. When I informed my boss, she countered with a 36% increase and unlimited vacation. What started as an easy numbers decision has become a more complicated calculus now. Should I even entertain the counter offer?

I got offered a position at HSBC, it's for GCB5 grade and Senior Consultant Specialist position. The CTC offered is 27 fixed, can someone confirm if this is very low.
YOE: 11.5
CCTC: 14 L

Is there any bond in HCL as I can see there is written to work for around 18 months.

Am working in OTC for 4 years, if I learn tableau and SQL can I jump into Finance analysis? Or else which is the best short term certification is best to get into FP&A

Hi Fishes,
I have currently two offers.
1. SRE (level 6) at Cisco with CTC 20lpa.
2. Early startup with role of senior devops Engineer referred by my previous manager will be under him and he is joining as CTO there. CTC 25lpa.
YOE: 4 years.
Totally confused to which join as I have joining date in Cisco in next two days Can you please help me to choose an offer.

Hi everyone,

What is the salary range for a Lead DevOps Engineer in ZS Associates ? My current salary is 27LPA, YOE: 7yrs and will be undergoing HR discussion soon...

Thanks in advance!

Hello DevOps Engineers,

I use to work as a Support Engineer. I unskilled myself in DevOps and moved to DevOps. I have 3+ Support experience and 1.5 as DevOps Engineer. I have worked on Jenkins, Docker, Kubernetes, Terraform and I’m certified in terraform and kubernetes and GCP.
I’m getting an offer from a company as Site Reliability Engineer. Is it good to move their as SRE? Will it look good on resume?

Total Exp: 4.5
CTC = 2.5 LPA
Offered = 12 fixed

Any one here working in klm project means please let me know ..

I have 9 years of experience and working in EY GDS with a fixed salary of 35lpa. I have received an offer from EY UK and they have offered 65k pounds. I know it’s less but please let me know if that’s okay given the fact that my wife has an offer of 50k pounds.

QQ for Recruiters and all who hire. When an applicant selects "Do Not Wish to Identify" to race and gender questions (even to the disabily question) when applying to positions online...Does HR or a hiring manager see that? Do you look for it? Is it hidden? Do companies judge an applicat for not identifying? Can you share what happens if anything?

Is there anyone that works for Gallagher Basset as a claims adjuster and willing to share their experience? I’ve been receiving quite a bit of contact from multiple recruiters over the past several months. I am concerned from reviews I’ve read and it appears they have a very high turnover rate.

Feeling extremely low. Wondering if any fellow fish can hear me out.

Moms with anxiety: how do you do it? Husband and I want to start a family soon, but the thought of managing my own anxiety while raising a human is terrifying 😱

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

How has therapy changed you?

I feel like I’m very opinionated and clash with others (mainly my family...) and i just want to talk through with someone on how to be less defensive. I know i take everything personally because it stems from childhood experiences and i just need to break that habit.

Also what kind of therapist am i supposed to look for? First timer here, and not sure what to expect or even look for in a therapist. Or even how to begin the search 😂

Is anyone having trouble finding a therapist? In my city...it feels like nobody is taking patients. I know about all of the online programs and a number of them take my insurance, but I wanted to see what others were experiencing as they looked.

Guys - i just want to be calm and not anxious and not worried about my career and what other people think of me. If I succeed I succeed if not then it is what it is.

My partner is still out of work from being laid off due to COVID and made it to a final round interview that he thought went well , and got a denial email this morning. I was so excited to finally not feel so much financial pressure as his unemployment is stalled, but I just feel terrible, like this will never end and start to impact our relationship because he can’t pull his weight with the bills. Plus, I have a presentation today and just feel so distracted — an awful awful morning.

Is betterhelp worth the money?

Having an absolute panic attack over nothing. Heart racing, dry mouth, feelings of terror. Sucks to realize there’s no one I can call to talk about this. Just trying to breathe it out

Unsure about therapist - she is in her 70s and always has problems with technology, frustrated because might not be a good fit but don’t want to start from scratch with someone new. I don’t mean to discriminate against age, but I’m starting to think she should be retired and her flakiness around appointment times makes me wonder if she’s just taking me on for the money. We almost always need to reschedule and she’s offering evenings and weekends- is this weird or is it me?

How do you deal w/ coworkers who turn on you. Use to be close (me, T and H), then this young naive know it all (A) comes in who just has it out for me and kills the vibe. Destroys the team. Now T, who use to bad mouth A talks to her all day long and they always message right after I say anything, T H and A have a chat call positivism that doesn’t include me, they barely talk to me now. T asked me what I’d do if I was never making manager then said she knows a lot of info, but refuses to say more

Good luck today everyone. It's a dawn of a new day to be a new person.

Holidays in 2020 brought me normalizing when too much family time is too much. I’m normalizing getting a hotel room so when I feel my anxiety creep in I can get dip out and move to a peaceful space