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I'm married for 5 years now and I don't act entitled to my husband. He's human. I took him on a cruise once for his bday, and I dont expect him to do anything big like that for my bday because i know my man has trouble coming up with huge extravagant materialistic stuff to show love, but i know he has the most realest deepest love for me evem though he isnt able to plan properly, he tries his best but i don't expect to take me on a cruise because he just can't handle extravagant plannings. He gets anxiety and I am understanding to that. I'm tired of women acting entitlited and shit and then expecting men to do all these things that might not be in their nature and then ask to be treated equally, sexism exists because women enable it too.
Wow you people are SAVAGE! WTF! @OP I totally get it. My poor bf stumbles like this too. We said we weren't going to do anything for Valentine's Day this year. I meant nothing big, he meant literally nothing. I didn't clearly communicate my expectations, so I really had no right to be upset when he did absolutely nothing. He was following instructions. But, shockingly, I was disappointed. I picked up a card for him weeks in advance and wrote a heartfelt note in it, and in the weeks leading up I found a few smaller gifts (under $30) that I thought would make him laugh. Gave them to him in the morning. I got a card from CVS and some of those message heart candies at the end of the day 😒. But it was an opportunity for us to talk about expectations and improve our communication. Next time I will clarify what I mean by "nothing." That is what I think you guys should be doing. Take the lesson and you both do better next time. A few days after Valentine's he came home with flowers and puppy dog eyes and all was well again. ❤️
You sound terrible in bed....
Nope
No... most husbands don't do any of those three. Be grateful.
So you are mad he got you flowers and wants to spend time with you at a popular bar and wants to be adventurous for dinner on your anniversary ....
And what did you do for him?
Mad about what?
Did you do anything for him? Probably not
How about next time you plan everything that way HE can bitch and moan about it to a bunch of stranger...seriously get over yourself you demon woman
Which Anniversary OP? I've celebrated most of mine from my living room
OP, it's not a big deal. Trust me - perhaps next time, share your expectations with him? Us men don't really know what goes on in your heads and could use plenty of help. I gave my wife a 3 hour pampering package for her birthday and she went bonkers. Apparently she expected that I was going to find a babysitter for our kid, and take her out for dinner. She didn't realize I wanted her to pamper herself as a treat. We worked through it. You'll be fine as long as you understand it's about spending time together, and not getting what you want. That is, if you really want to spend time with him 😜
He tried
He did his best. He has no control over the wait at the bar...and he still took you somewhere else..why in hell would you be mad at him ? What are you entitled ? Can't believe people these days can't see when others are doing their best for you and care for you. I am a female saying this to you as another female.
Not worth a fight. Seriously this is a first world problem. Just explain what you want in the future.
Ehn, seems like he didn't plan way ahead but had good intentions. I don't buy the "be grateful for what you get" BS, but I think you should also explain to him why you had issues with it and how it made you feel instead of just being mad. 1) spouses are suckers for a sad partner, not a mad one and 2) some folks just need extra explanation on what kind of thing makes you the happiest
Also, do the love languages test together and work with each other's needs. Maybe you need more thoughtful gestures and he needs more quality time or something.
(And what is with all the rude colleagues on FB!! Have folks who are empathetic and ready to fight with you about airplane seats but are cool calm and judgy when it comes to valid relationship woes)
OP still hasn't said what she did for him...
Such a whiner
He tried...you did nothing. And you have the audacity to complain? God bless your husband.
Sounds like OP is an ungrateful, nagging wife. What have you gotten for your husband for your anniversary?
As a guy, who cares about an anniversary?
Why aren't women planning this if they're better at it.
To me it is just a day. - this is all some kind of game to meet arbitrary expectations
Most guys suck at dating/courting/seducing. And most women think they want what they see on TV. (When guys do those sweet, "he's such a nice guy" things from the movies, it actually kills attraction.) But if you learn about what actually creates attraction, then you can help steer him (without being a C U Next Tuesday) to become the man beast you want him to be, and to make you lust for him uncontrollably. You have more control than you think! 👍🏼