Husband wants to separate after being married for almost 4 years. I’m in the middle of my first busy season at PwC. Def Feel like I did a terrible job as a wife and he’s not giving me another chance.

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Continue the discussion and make sure all cards are laid on the table, to ensure a mutually agreed upon decision by all parties. No kids?

No one is ever 100% certain about a decision so there may still be a 10% chance he wants the status quo to remain.

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I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Relationships don't work for many reasons even when both people try their hardest and both still love each other. Your should in no way feel like a failure.

That said, instead of asking for a second chance, perhaps you could ask if:

1)he would like to take a break for a few months 2)he could make a list of things about you/the relationship that bother him (it sounds like most comments think your commitment to the job bothers him)

After a few months of separation and working on yourself(s) perhaps the two of you could could revisit if either/both of you would like to give the relationship a second chance.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. The fact he’s not willing to give your marriage a chance to work through it shows he did a terrible job as a husband. Marriage is hard and it’s really not fair to tell you when he’s reached the point of being completely done without giving you a chance to fix anything.

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If he really spoke up, his decision wouldn’t have been a shock to OP. Expecting a problem to fix itself without telling the person the problem is significant enough to end a marriage is pretty bad. I understand she ignored him but a simple “I feel ignored and you only focus on work and if it doesn’t change this marriage is not something I can stay in” would have made a huge difference. From her shock, it’s a pretty safe assumption that he didn’t speak up or didn’t do it in a way to convey how serious his concerns were.

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He is cheating just leave trust me. Go on a dating app boom bam be done hunny get on antidepressants don’t let him steal your thunder

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So sorry to hear this, marriage is really tough and you have to give it your all for it to work. If he is done though, not much you can do than to talk through it with a non biased person. We don’t make mistakes, we lean and hopefully this is a learning phase for you.

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I’m sorry you are going through this. I have no advice, unfortunately, other than to say good luck.

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I feel like I’ve been focusing primarily on my career and sort of ignored him at times. I always thought it was just a rough patch and we’ll be ok. It came as a shock and I wanted to save our marriage but he said he no longer loves me the same.

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Sounds like he has someone else lined up

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it sounds like he’s trying to victimize you to cover up for something he did especially if you did not see this coming. you have a good career and future in place don’t let this slow you down.

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Wow. You got a lot out of absolutely nothing. You should run for Congress as a democrat

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It doesn’t matter why he is doing this. You need a partner who will stick with you support you and make you a better person. He sounds weak and not committed you deserve more

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It’s ok. I’ll be your new husband.

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I’m sorry.

How old are the two of you

ask for couples therapy to understand the root cause and work on a solution

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