Husband’s work life has been really busy, we’ve rarely spent time together this week and I’ve had to pick up slack in cleaning, making dinner/ordering...etc. When this happens, how do you make up time spent with them? I feel like I put a lot of pressure on myself to make up that time instead of just decompressing myself.

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Don’t make it up. Just move forward. Be thankful you have a husband. Some of us are still in singleville using apps to find dates.

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I’ve been the busy one these last few weeks (technical go-live) so my husband has been the one “picking up the slack”

We don’t ever try and cram extra together time in because the hours in the day already feel so finite BUT we do try and maximize the time we still have. (e.g., we talk when falling asleep at night, pop into each other’s offices during the day for short catch-ups, etc)

IMO there’s no reason you should feel pressure to make up for the time. It’s just a period of life you’re both adapting to.

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Same! The quick midday catchups have been fun. And make me feel less guilty about working late hours. We don’t worry about “making up time,” we just enjoy our weekends

I would do something specific for him one night - a nicer dinner, beer, sex, whatever - to let him know you appreciate what he is doing. And then take time for yourself to decompress & make sure he supports that. So you both get the breaks you need.

Aside from that, once youre both more rested & feeling appreciated, make a date night plan! Get fully dressed & sit outside- whatever you enjoy doing that is a bit more than TV binging etc

Gosh I feel like he should make you dinner and do something nice for you since you're picking up extra Slack. It's not your problem alone it's both of yours. And you need to put your decompressing time first so that you can stay healthy.

Pressure isn’t on you. A relationship is two people. Absolutely take the time to do something nice but don’t feel the pressure about maximizing your time as he is just as responsible ❤️

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