I absolutely love my mother, but lately I feel that I have surpassed her mentally... it’s hard to explain. Has anyone else had a weird realization that you are smarter than your parent(s)? (Honestly)

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Not necessarily smarter but more self-aware. I’ve noticed my mom recently talks a LOT. Interrupts me constantly. Idk if that comes with age but I’ve told her about it. I guess people get more set in their ways and don’t really care.

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Yes. Although my Dad's got at least 10-20 IQ points on me, you'd never know it by all the boneheaded decisions he made over the years. I idolized the man until I was close to 30. Then I found myself making many of the same mistakes he did. Took a hard look at it, and our paths diverged from that point on.

People are human. Recognizing your parents as such is an indicator that you've finally reached adulthood.

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My dad voted for trump. It triggered an avalanche of realizations I’m glad I didn’t have sooner. I feel your pain.

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My dad is a misogynist and I’m a woman so, yes. It’s very very hard realizing your parents are seriously flawed.

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Yeah... My mom thinks trump is a good Christian man.

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I don't know. I love my parents. Occasionally they have opinions I disagree with. Sometimes I feel I'm smarter, other times I realize their knowledge far surpasses my own and I was an idiot for thinking I was smarter. In the end, I think we're supposed to grow past our parents, and we shouldn't hold it against them when we do.

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CD4 i haven’t seen such a good humble brag since I quit Facebook!

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I can barely stand to talk to my mother anymore. She’s older now and lonely — and that’s sad. But she does nothing about getting out of the house and being in life (despite being healthy). She manipulates me every time I call, putting massive amounts of guilt onto me. “Hello? Oh thank god it’s you. I just miss you so much. When are you coming hoooooooome.” And then there’s literally no additional conversation. She puts her loneliness and misery at my feet every call. I hope I never do that to my children.

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I used to feel the same way, and to others' points on here, yes, you're supposed to grow past your parents. But I will say this...treasure the moments you still have left with them, because parents don't live forever and one of these days you'll wish you could have one more of those annoying phone calls with them.

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Literally all the time their not very smart although

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On a positive note, your children will say the same about you. Nice to see all the respect that children have for their parents in this thread

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I feel like I’ve grown to respect my parents more as I’ve gotten older. Are there some generational divides when it comes to emotional intelligence? Absolutely. Are they losing it a bit? Yes. But they are smart as hell. They also have lived through things I hope I never have to and are incredibly strong. They are wise and can read someone in 2 seconds which is a skill I hope to acquire one day. Maybe it’s because they are old now and I’m scared of them dying, but I’m trying to put the petty annoyances aside and focus on how grateful I am to have them.

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@CD1 same thing happened with me and it’s a little heartbreaking honestly

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Same here on the Trump thing. My parents are retired teacher and my dad a fine artist. It’s mind boggling

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My dad is an immigrant from the middle east and voted for trump 😂

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As I got older I realized my mother is great at manipulation. And I have more respect for my Dad for putting up with her all these years

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I don’t think political opinion correlates directly with intelligence... idk. I’m a moderate with a conservative mom and a liberal dad, but both of them are still very smart. Granted, neither voted for trump, but I’m still not sure that’s a good mark of someone’s intellect vs blindly supporting him and making excuses for every single one of his many glaring flaws.

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It's an age thing. My father in his prime was sweet, witty, and a joy to be around. Now that he's in his 70s, in pain every day from diabetes, bad knees etc.. he's a miserable insecure bastard.. sucks getting old, love him though, will text him now

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This thread is amazing! My mom is manipulative also via guilt. My Mother-in-law is healthy and does nothing but make lists about how she has been wronged and holds grudges like none other toward my wife. Luckily my wife is so damn smart she laughs at it and explains to her that she (my mother-in-law) is just hurt and doesn't know how to express it and move forward. So yes, we both feel we are smarter than our parents and more self aware, which I think is more important than any IQ.

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Intelligence should have no bearing on respect levels. At one point in time, every decision these people made were with you in mind. There’s no one else in the world that will ever go to the lengths to look out for your best interest than your parents did. They aren’t perfect. But they did the best they could.

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