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Rising Star
Pregnancy hormones suck! I’d try to use this as an opportunity to have some fun ‘you’ time before babe comes. Order your favorite take out dinner, get a Starbucks in the morning, rent a movie at night that your husband wouldn’t like, etc. Take a long bath and do an at-home pedi, etc. weather dependent, make some outdoor plans with friends. Even if it’s just a quick walk with a hot chocolate! A week seems like a long time, but it’s not so bad if you plan a fun event for yourself each day. And maybe one night to stay with your husband and one night for him to come stay with you.
My postpartum anxiety was awwwwfffuuullll and things like this helped keep me sane when I was home with babe all day on mat leave while my husband traveled. Meditation & yoga can also be really helpful for anxiety, I found!
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Oh and journaling. Sometimes just writing down what was making me anxious lessened my anxiety immediately!
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Not to be a jerk but I think you probably need to get over being alone in the house. Take a bath, binge watch some Netflix, and enjoy your last few months before baby arrives
Be fair and kind to yourself but also to your husband! I can’t even imagine the stress he’s under between his mother who is physically unable to take care of herself and his wife who is unable to take care of being pregnant (really nothing he can help with), can’t even imagine if the baby were here!
I would call your doctor if being alone is causing you this much anxiety and get professional help, expecting your husband to choose between you and his mom *in this situation* seems like an impossible task for him. It also will get a whole lot more challenging once a baby is here, so I really do sincerely and strongly recommend you take to your doctor about your hormones and how to cope with them now, and especially postpartum.
You have a completely legit and viable option to not be home alone, either take it or figure something else out, but please get some help for yours and your family’s sake, especially yours.
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Few days or a week to go, I personally would stay put. Try to distract yourself with cheesy rom coms and reading up on baby sleep schedules.
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My husband tries to commute but sometimes he has to stay there overnight. He is also working from home in addition to taking care of his mother so sometimes he is unable to spend time commuting and he ends up spending the night there. It’ll take another few days or week for her to recover and it’s getting harder for me by the minute. What would you do if you were me?
Is there someone who can stay with you? A friend or family member? Assuming they’ve been careful of covid and wouldn’t be putting you or the baby at risk?
I’m so sorry 😢
Can you go stay in his parents house?
What is making you so anxious? Are you afraid of getting Covid? Otherwise I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just go with him if you’re so afraid of being alone.
If you’re afraid of being alone and I don’t know what to tell you. You’re an adult. I agree you need to get some help. This is not normal.
Can I ask if you’re outside the US? The tone of this post sounds similar to something I heard posted by someone in India recently. I think context in this situation is important.
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Thanks so much ladies. This is helpful. I am trying very hard to work through this. And even though I probably have another week of this, he has had to be there for the last two weeks and this arrangement is now taking a toll on me. This week is harder because I am off and have a lot of free time to think. I am going to get busy with my list of errands (need to organize baby’a closet, find a doula). Its just shocking to me how my hormones are making me so weak emotionally
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I would stay at home on your own and find some things to do for yourself. Take long baths, make a baby blanket, organize the house, prep baby’s room more, take walks every day, talk on the phone to anyone who is available, take a drive for a coffee/tea, go through photo albums/print new photos, etc etc etc
This may be your last chance to spend time alone (esp since you said you used to enjoy that independence) & focusing on yourself. Try to enjoy it.
Agree that talking with your dr may be a good idea as well.
If you get anxious being home alone, you’re going to hate being home alone all day with a baby. I agree with PwC 1 - try to do things to enjoy this time at home by yourself. Is there any additional nesting/baby laundry to do that will get you excited about your little ones arrival?