I am 27 and a guy I really like is 40. The age gap scares the shit out of me . Not sure how to explain that ? Does age create a big issue as I imagine it to be?

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My partner is adopted and his parents are 13 years apart. He says it just allowed him to grow up with different types of parents and made it a great experience. The younger parent would chase around the house with him and taught him to ski etc., and the older parent got him into traveling the world and having great experiences. He realizes that also means that one parent is facing health problems before the other, and he is already less mobile, but it doesn’t take away from how amazing his childhood was and current family dynamic is.

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Well I’d think about when that someday is and how old other Daddy will be... and if he wants kids as he gets older. My husband just turned 40 (I’m 36) and we are trying to get on the baby thing so we aren’t senior citizens with kids in HS. Just one point to think about. Not romantic but practical.

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I dated a guy who was 13 years older. The potential for kids was one of the main deal breakers. I know I would be ready for kids until I’m 34-36, and by then it felt like he’d be too old. Plus he wasn’t too sold on having kids.

If kids don’t play a factor, feels like there’d be little to stand in your way...

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KPMG1 hit the nail on the head. My fiance is 42 and I am 30, we mutually decided to not have kids; mostly because he feels like at the age of 52, he'll be in a different place in life to deal with a 10 year old.

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11 years between my partner and I. It made me think for about a day and then I was over it.

I know people are bringing-up the kids thing, but unless you’re hell bent on a baby, there are plenty of kids that are older and would love to be adopted, too

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So I’m 40 and bf is 27 (almost). It was supposed to be a hookup and we’ve been together for 4 years. Definitely the one. It just happened. Age difference was a bit weird at the beginning, never for us, more like what my and his friends thought. We got over that fast and now, unless someone asks, we don’t even think age difference. Being in different stages in life actually works out really well. More positives than negatives

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Age is just a number. My maine squeeze is 40 and I am 29. No biggie. If you like him, go for him

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I felt the same at 27 when I kind of dated someone in their early 40s..15 years seemed huge. Now that I'm past 30, I don't think it matters at all. Maybe I passed the psychological barrier, haha.

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@OP - if you really like the guy, do it. My partner provides a lot of valuable insight and guidance for me because he’s gone through it. I can’t say that I always appreciated it, but it was very solid advice looking back - how friendships will change, what becomes important professionally or personally, etc.

The only thing that we worked out, and it is different for everyone, is that we probably do a broader mix of things separately than most would expect. Think of your 27yo friends wanting Sunday funday or going to the latest “in” place for dinner and drinks versus going to a nice dinner or spending the day at a kids baseball game and bbq with your partner’s friends. You and he won’t always want to do that We blend well, but don’t make it obligatory that we always have to be together.

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Do you want kids?

Yes some day , KPMG1

Thanks P1 for the insight

Hi P1!!! Are you BCG!! I know you :D good to see you on here.

I have friends with that large of an age gap. One couple just got married and they are so incredibly happy. Do what makes you happy. Do what feels right

I’m 24 and went on a date with this 40 yr old guy whom I was pretty into. After one date, he said it’s not going to work out not because I wasn’t mature or anything, but the age gap is too big for him. He said when I’m at the peak of my sex life which is around 30, he’ll be close to 50 prob needing lots of viagra or something. I don’t know maybe he just didn’t like me enough.

A1, sounds like an excuse. I’m 45 and don’t need medication.

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