I am 30 and just got promoted to Senior manager. I think I am doing well but I feel I am driven more by pessimism, imposter syndrome, and fear of getting fired as opposed to a positive mindset and the desire to thrive in my career. I feel like I am suffering from some sort of a mental issue but wanted to throw it out here and get some advice to deal with this from the fishbowl fam as opposed to going to therapy. Thanks in advance for your responses!

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Hey there, I hope you get the perspective you’re looking for. It’s normal to feel these things and I suffer from chronic impostor syndrome too. This industry tends to attract type-As that excel at what they do but unfortunately at the cost of their sense of self worth and self esteem.

I don’t want to offer advice without enough context here, but being much further in my career, I will share that there is no replacement for good therapy. Bain has very good coverage and you can also start with the employee assistance program. Working with a trained 3rd party expert who can guide you using clinically proven methods is invaluable and can really help your career growth and overall wellbeing. Good luck!

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Thank you for the perspective. Appreciate it!

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