I am a 30 year old Senior Consultant and new mom. I have been with my firm for 3 years, 2 of which I’ve spent pregnant or trying to figure out motherhood. Luckily my travel isn’t bad but I worry(cont)

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Take a long view of your career. I started BCG after my MBA, with a 3 month old baby. It was a struggle, certainly. I had my 2nd 2.5 years later, and stuck it out for a total of 4 years with the firm. I learned a bunch and had some great experiences, but I got to a point where I needed less travel. I was promoted about 18 months behind my peers, which may be seen as failure to some, but I was optimising for different results. I occasionally had comments from leadership about me not wanting to work long hours or travel, but my work was solid and I had built allies in the leadership team to counter those voices.

Don’t measure your success by anyone else’s measuring stick. Your “peers” may be moving ahead of you, but that is a choice they’ve made (assuming your work is solid as theirs). You have made other choices, and have other factors in your equation for success.

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I also want to highlight that we should not paint those who make other choices as “workaholics.” It benefits none of us to make this a binary choice of “good” and “bad” lifestyles. The point is to intentionally choose what works for YOU, and pursue it. Don’t waste energy on evaluating what others choose

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You’re going to get that pressure from a lot of industry jobs too because the number of people who “don’t get it” is huge when it comes to mothering. Be rational in your justifications and don’t measure yourself against others. Oh, and a study just came out about how working moms have children with higher paid jobs than moms who stay at home. So your struggle is only helping your baby’s future 👍

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I think you said it. Your peers are “completely devoting their lives to their career". It’s your choice not to, and personally, as a new mom myself, I think it’s an awesome choice. Do what works for your life and don’t worry about your workaholic peers!

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Same boat. Push for educating everyone on intersectionality. Unfortunately some people are narrow minded. And this also plays a factor into the fact we are in the lowest dip in reproduction. Why, you ask? Case in point

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Same boat. Currently two years behind my peers in terms of promotions. Thankfully I am now with an RP who truly believes in inclusion. She is helping me build a business case for promotion next year. Fingers crossed!

I have realized - a lot of times it is optics and networking which new moms like us can't find the time for. Work wise - I am sure we contribute as much as our workaholic colleagues. Otherwise we would have been shown the door by now.

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Agree with Director 1. Figure out what you want your life to be and what you love to do and what enables you to get there. There are always haters. As long as your leadership and team support you, that’s what matters. Your path is yours alone - you get to make the decisions about how fast or slow you want to go and where it leads you.

I am a Mom. I love what I do. It’s hard sometimes, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Find your support structure. That’s what gets me through the difficult times.

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I’m falling behind my peers because I’m not capable of completely devoting my life to my career. I also hear some of the backhand comments being made about me and my lifestyle from leadership. I’m seriously considering jump ship and going into industry but at the same time, I enjoy the nature of the work i do. Has anyone been in this position before? Should I stick it out although my matriculation may be slower or do I accept my life is different and find a role that will allow me to have more balance?

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