I am about to start “trying” for a baby but in the back of my head have a huge fear about actually giving birth. Any other moms felt this way and how did it end up going?

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I was scared but remember everyone's experience is different, once your in labor something just comes over you that says you gotta get this child into this world safely and you get the courage and straight you need to do that. GOOD LUCK 🤗🤗🤗

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I’ve had three. Whenever I thought this I would tell myself women have been having babies for years and years and years and our bodies are made for it!

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That’s how I got through it too!

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I was also terrified of this and quickly learned that caring for and raising children is 100000x harder than birthing them hah

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I rather give birth then listen to my toddler have her level 10 tantrum

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I had two easy births. Epidural was critical lol.

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You want to get there at least 90ish minutes before it’s time to push, otherwise the anesthesiologist might be serving other patients and you miss the window.

Both times I stayed home until the pain became unbearable and still arrived with plenty of time to spare. 60 minute wait for the epidural and the 3-4 hours of chillin before time to push.

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Like pretty much everyone is terrified of labor. Your fears aren't unfounded - there's plenty that can go wrong - but things go right so much more often. Work with a therapist if you're ruminating and your thoughts are taking am unhealthy turn, but Hitt denims are totally valid

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I reviewed my assets, updated my will, and made a list of my accounts and passwords and gave them to my husband. Just in case.

Prepared for the worst. Hoped for the best.

Oh and you can get an epidural before contractions start if you’re being induced. Ask for it early.

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The fear is completely normal. With both my kids, I got to hospital, they said I was already dilated, there’s no time to get an epidural, gotta push now! Labor pain is not continuous pain like the pain you feel recovering from ACL surgery. It’s a pain that comes and goes, it gets intense as baby is close but completely stops once the baby is out.

The best I can describe non medicated birth: Its like feeling cramps except they get bigger and harder to recover from previous contraction once next one kicks in. The transition phase, where baby’s head pushing against your tailbone I thought most painful than the actual pushing, because it did feel like bone splitting pain on my tailbone…but it goes away once everyone sees baby’s head coming out! Pushing was more exhausting than painful. It’s a complete blur delivering a baby but the labor pain not as bad as I thought once I went through it!

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Labor coach or doula for the win. Having someone on hand to answer questions and hold your hand is awesome

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I was so terrified as well. Labor sucked lol but the actual pushing/giving birth was not bad at all for me. Epidurals are amazing 🙌🏼 I also felt so empowered after and it was the most incredible experience.

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This is SO normal. I had my first a little over a year ago and was completely terrified as well. Particularly as I got closer to my due date, I used to sit at home and cry because i was so afraid of the pain of giving birth. I’m not going to say it’s easy or painless, but you can manage it. Breathing through the contractions makes a big difference. In regards to the actual pushing and giving birth, with an epidural I felt NOTHING, it was amazing lol. I agree with the previous poster that it’s definitely more tiring than anything, but I’ll take that over pain any day! The experience is truly amazing and emotionally overwhelming - I still tear up when I think about the moment I first met my daughter! One last piece of advice, take care of yourself during recovery, that was actually harder for me than labor because recovery takes a lot longer. Force yourself to rest and accept help from anyone who will offer! Giving birth is probably close to running a marathon in how physically taxing it is, except we don’t really “train” to give birth! Remember how important your physical and mental health is throughout the process and I promise you’ll get through it. It’s so worth it in the end :)

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I wanted to do it unmedicated, but after hours of being unable to talk and just grunting, and they told me I was only 6 cm and it could be another “few hours,” I decided to get an epidural. Then, the epidural didn’t work. That was the worst. When it kicked in, I was chatting it up with everyone in the room. I didn’t feel a thing 30 minutes later at 10cm dilated. Pushed 4 times and in a few minutes, he was out. I was chatting and smiling. Epidurals sure are wonderful. I was a wild animal before I got it.
I still like a challenge, so if I have another one, I’m going to do some research and try to truly go unmedicated.
I am proud I got through about 90% of labor “naturally!”

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I dreaded and feared both pregnancy and giving birth. Had a traumatic labor experience but I’m here to tell you that I will 1000% do it again to have more children. Our little boy is the light of our lives and just thinking about how much I love him makes me smile and cry. Totally worth the absolute torture that is labor and delivery. My best advice is not to think too much about it (too much), prepare how you want, but know that you will be ok!

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First- it is definitely normal to feel this way, even after the first baby! I just made sure that my birth team (including my husband) and I are on the same page the whole time (I wanted to try my best to have a natural birth unmedicated, if possible). If this isn’t possible due to any circumstances along the way, I was also mentally prepared to follow the advice of my doctor on what is best for my baby. Overall, it went great since I set expectations first.

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This is normal! I had two, one by c section and one an unmedicated home birth. Your doctor or midwife will help get you through it. I recommend you get familiar with the process and stages of labor so you know what is happening. Decide for yourself if you want the epidural. Also prepare to take it really easy after the birth so you can heal. If possible hire someone to help you with the baby and/or housework. I couldn’t afford that but would have been nice. It’s hard work but your body can do it and you will have your beautiful baby at the end. Good luck to you!

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Thank you, I feel like it now sometimes lol. But however we get our babies out is freaking amazing!

My last baby was nearly 10lb and I gave birth to him in a birth pool with no pain relief. It was the most empowering thing i think i have ever done. I honestly think you have to go into it as relaxed as possible and trust your body (hypnobirthing can help with this). The 'pain' of contractions is nothing like normal pain, I experienced it as period cramps that got more and more intense.

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Very normal! Tbh, giving birth is actually the only thing I enjoy about the pregnancy experience. It’s made me realize how strong I really am. I agree with the preparing for the worst but hoping for the best!

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I cried the day my Dr told me to leave the office and go to the hospital to have the baby because I was terrified. I almost passed out when they put in the IV. The rest turned into 40 hours of a labor blur ending in a c section, but honestly I'm the biggest scaredy cat that ever existed and I think the fear was worse than the pain.

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Oh yeah. It’s pretty terrifying to think about when you have no context for how that will feel. I watched some videos and they honestly really helped.

I also did every to possible to have a smooth birth. I worked out — 2 hour workouts 5 days a week — till the day I gave birth.

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I was 16 going on 17 when I had my son and it was terrifying, literally had no idea what I was doing but in the moment your body, your mind and your heart will tell you what to do plus the amazing doctors + nurses! Just be hopeful, you can never teach a person on how to be a mother you learn as you go.

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I think it’s all about how you approach it. I approached it with I really don’t want an epidural or C-section but this baby is more important than my wants and if I end up needing either of those it’s ok. Having the baby and myself here and healthy is what matters.

It’s also ok to be scared and nervous as you’ve never done this before like someone else said finding a doula or birth coach could really be a game changer for you.

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