I am crazy to think about quitting to spend time with my newborn baby. I am on maternity leave and don’t want to come back to the stress of consulting life. I make more than my husband but I am not happy :( might by just hormones idk 😫

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How old is the baby? Natural feeling, but hormones are crazy!

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She is 2 months. I am so stressed and get panic attacks because of work, I don’t want to stress out my baby since I an breastfeeding

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How much time do you have planned for maternity? I felt night and day different at 4 months from 2. Wait and see if you can.

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16 weeks! Will be back in a month and half approximately

I thought about this a lot while I was on maternity leave too. It’s really hard to imagine going back but I found it to be an easier transition than maybe what I’d envisioned - I went back at 5 months to a remote position that was really low key and gave me a lot of opportunity to ease myself into working again; breastfeeding and pumping was very well established by that point; had a great nanny that I trusted. Around 7 months started going to the client (local) and never really looked back. It’s nice to have work outside of the home, stuff I can control and feel accomplished in. I love being a mom too but always struggled with how quickly days would pass and it’d feel like I did nothing but watch the baby and still felt utterly drained. Staying at home was so much harder than being at work for me.

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I would be so lucky to find a low key remote position. My current project (lasting 8 years lol) is with a very demanding agency and the team I work with is for the part young and without kids. So, we don’t really have the same priorities. Could you please share with me the position you had when returning from maternity? I would be very interested. Please feel free to Dm

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Don’t make any big decisions in the first 3 months! Your head and hormones are all over the place in the first few months. I felt like that a couple months in and by the time my leave was over, I was ready to work. Love my kiddos, but the stay at home mom thing was not my jam.

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How much time do you have for maternity leave? Take it all. At 2 months you and baby are in completely different spots that you will be at 4 or 6 months. If you have to go back too soon can you extend you’re leave for another month or two? Look at the numbers, come up with scenarios, plan for quitting if you’d like. BUT don’t make any life altering decisions right now (trust me in this one). Buy more time. Enjoy time with baby now. Literally sleep on it.

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16 weeks! I’ll be back in about 1 month and a half... It’s so hard to leave her now, especially that she’s smiling higgling :) all my team are young single folks who don’t know what a family is and I am really not in the same state of mind, that’s why I am stressed to come back

At 2 months I couldn’t imagine ever caring about work again and by 5 months (I was in California so I had longer leave available) I couldn’t wait to get back. See how things change and consider taking some unpaid leave if you want to extend your time by a month or two, don’t completely quit until you’ve taken a lot of unpaid leave and feel 100% confident in the decision. You’re still in the newborn phase so enjoy it but recognize your brain is currently being hijacked by overwhelming and all consuming job that is mommy-ing right now, so don’t trust yourself to make any long term decisions.

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I recommend going back to work and seeing how you like it or don’t. Just try it. Give it 6 months. If you hate it. Quit. Just give it a go. I have two kids and had these same thoughts while on mat leave and went back and was fine. Some people go back and then realize it’s not for them. That’s okay too.

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I like your insight!! Thank you!

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