I am currently a restaurant manager. There are two of us who got promoted at the same time. Shortly after, the other manager moved in with the GM (both female). The GM is also best friends with the higher up’s wife. I am not close with anyone. I come to work to do my job, not create friendships. Especially not that close of friendships. I am treated differently for sure. My work is nitpicked and constantly negatively criticized. I want to do well and succeed, but I feel like an outcast. Help?

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I'm sorry you're going through this. I've experienced similar and find that smaller businesses are prone to being dysfunctional this way - especially when there are interpersonal relationships that cross the boundaries of professionalism. My advice to you would be to start looking elsewhere. This business model will eventually fail, so you're better off getting out now before it's too late. Good luck!


Thank you for this. I kind of knew this was the response I would receive, but I am looking for advice along the lines of if I should approach other higher up managers with my concerns?


Unfortunately unless the rest of higher management can see it and see it as an issue, nothing will probably change. As annoying as it is, sometimes making friendships at work can be beneficial. I get it that it feels draining sometimes though.


Hate to say it but sometimes you have to brown nose. I know...it sucks believe me. But it really is all about who you know these days.

I mean I agree - I think it's worth TRYING that path and if it doesn't work out, you can explore other roles and opportunities guilt-free

Sorry this is your experience. If you like the company and your job, I recommend trying to engage with people at work as much as possible. You don’t need to become besties but it will help you with your relationships at work. Be curious about them, show interest in their life outside work.

Hard work matters but in reality so so the relationships.

Was on the same boat a few months ago. I literally had to force myself to make connections. Saw how everything changed, they started to treat me fairly.

Building relationships at work is important. Even if you don't want to hang out after hours, it's worth getting to know people and make yourself 'liked' beyond your work.

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