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So he’s 23? Possible but good luck. That’s a hard age to get engaged. You should try planting the seed and if you guys are ready then should be able to speak about it fairly openly. Just be subtle at first.
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Can’t say the wrong thing to the right person. His age won’t be a factor if he wants to marry you..when you want to get married. Have an adult discussion, if he’s on the same page then great. If he’s not, don’t give him an ultimatum etc, just figure out your next move; which might not include him🤷🏾♀️
Great advice, thank you!
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You’re ready to get engaged in general or engaged to him? Do you know how he feels about the relationship? I don’t think age is as much of an issue as where his head is at with regards to you.
You both share common hobbies or interests?
IMO that seems too young. A dudes brain isn’t fully developed until 25
Discuss with him. It depends on his maturity and readiness, not on his age.
Some guys mature early
Better hope he’s from the mid-west! Kidding aside, It’s a conversation you need to have, but in general for guys that’s a really young age to get engaged. That said, dating three years is a long time. You’ve got a body clock for a family he needs to appreciate too
Ask him
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I'm basically in the opposite situation (me 23, bf 27, he wants to get engaged, i feel too young). I'd say broach the topic in a judgement free vibes kind of way and he may not be ready now but discuss the reasons why and how you can get on a path to readiness
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I am confused, you are asking us, the internet strangers, if your long term bf is ready to get engaged? Do people nowadays don’t talk about important stuff in relationships anymore?
Chief
So what’s the *confession* here? And you can expect nothing else but judgment here OP 😅
Well if you are looking for input, my opinion is that if you don’t know if your boyfriend would consider an engagement, then you relationship is not ready for it.
Despite the movies that show spontaneous engagements in the rain, in real life, a successful engagement usually happens once both people are ready for it and they have discussed it.
No and no.
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I’m from a country where it’s normal to be married at this age. I don’t follow suit, but recently went out on a date with a guy who was 24 and from the complete other side of the world, but still a country where this is normal (maybe even more encouraged than in mine)… and he was looking for a wifey. We’re both from places where family values are instilled in us young. Not that it’s a nationality thing but I’m curious, is he by luck (in this scenario) maybe also from a “marry early” background ? If so that changes a lot here I think.