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Asians in Consulting

I am dating this Chinese girl with tiger mom & dad. Her parents were literally trying to get me to send them my resume and social media accounts so they can “get to know me”... I don’t really care about sharing those but found it stupidly absurd. Anyone ran into a similar issue before??

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I used to think it's absurd until I came back to China after more than a decade. China has massive population and the income disparity is not small. If you are not from a wealthy family or make a decent living, life can be very difficult. Remember it's still a developing country with income per capita around $10K. So imagine if your daughter/son is looking to date and potentially marry, you really want to make sure they have means to make a decent living, and not drag down your kids'living standard. I now think this thinking totally make sense in the context of China

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I meann if my friend was dating someone idk i would probably stalk on their social media a little. Only difference is parents probably arent as good as stalking so they just asked you to give it to them lol. Resume part is definitely odd.. you can refer them to your linkedin lol

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They didnt ask for your W2?

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Surprisingly relatable

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Parents gotta do their DD 👀

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Even if getting married that's ridiculous. This isn't a business transaction requiring an evaluation. I actually caution if one were to marry this is what you'll be facing down the road. Overbearing and boundary crossing in laws.. Did she stick up for you and tell them it was ridiculous?

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That sounds 🦇💩 crazy

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Hahaha that’s hilarious, I would just list what they’re “looking for” cuz I think that’s silly. Princeton Valedictorian, Harvard PhD, Associate. Aspiring husband.

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I would see this as a red flag that your gf didn't stand up to her parents for you. If my parents asked my bf for this, I'd tell them they are crazy and would tell my bf to ignore them

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Yeah it’s not a big deal.

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What's the big deal? Just send your resume. It's meant to be given to people...

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OP should just write one about his why he's a good bf

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Oh wow lol. My ex’s parents did start off thinking I was beneath her (growing up in the US Midwest I wasn’t familiar with a lot of their wealthy HK family etiquette so I came across fairly 土) but they never stalked my resume/social media... and they did come around in the end.

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I know a Chinese friend whose parents disapprove of her new boyfriend because he only has an undergraduate degree, even though he works in FAANG. Good luck with yours!

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That’s fucked up!

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Normal, my ex’s parents stalked my LinkedIn and even cased me during our first dinner

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Stalking LinkedIn is normal, casing is not

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For a lot of Asian parents, if you are dating their daughter that means you are headed towards marriage. They definitely don't see the point of dating if you don't intend to get married. Therefore, they already see you as a potential son in law, and need to know this info before the relationship gets too far.

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It is not a business. They can ask whatever they want at an appropriate social setting/time. My first thought would be “are they collecting other resumes too?” :)

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I'd be very afraid. Will your gf not stand up for you?

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OP has not provided a sitrep in 72 hours - we've lost him people. RIP Tiger-Kissed, he never had a chance.

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Better yet - add your family to the group chat

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Run. It’s only going to get worse from here, especially if she can’t keep her parents at bay now. One day they’re going to ask to move in with you. You don’t want that

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If it works for you, I’ll admit there can be some nice benefits. I just know when I left home for college, it felt like a bag of bricks had been taken off my conscience

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Put on your enthusiasm like you were trying to get your job!

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You realize that your resume and social media account info is just step 1 of 10... If you have issues with just step one, you might as well quit now

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Pretty normal I would say. My friend’s parents even hire investigator to do due diligence when her daughter dates

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Need investigator referral haha

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LinkedIn is a beautiful thing

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Is she worth it? If not, run away. Fast

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Have you asked your gf what her thoughts about it are? To me, that’s just as important if not more than what the parents think.

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Resume???

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