I am driving both me and my husband crazy. We both work from home in a 4 bedroom home pretty decent size. My husband wants to do daycare and id prefer a nanny. Thankfully money isn’t the the concern, it’s more he thinks we’ll be distracted and I am nervous about anti-vax people and rise of polio and whooping cough. We went to a daycare we liked but they did they allowed religious exceptions which makes me uncomfortable. Would love to get feedback.

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I think I’d prefer daycare. Yes, the kid is more likely to get sick more often, but they need the exposure to virus to build up their immune system, sooner or later.

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On how to convince your husband to go nanny or on how to continue yourself to go daycare? Obviously you have already thought of the pros and cons to each. For me, having a quiet house to wfh in is huge for my sanity.

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Nanny all the way. Not having to get dressed, prepare food/bottles, drive them to daycare and then get back for work is amazing. My nanny comes, I hand her the baby while wearing my nightgown and she gives him breakfast and takes it from there. She also does his laundry, meal plans and then prepares all his food, washes the bottles, keeps his nursery organized / in order, and generally picks up the house every day (will do my dirty dishes if I leave them in sink, unloads the dishwasher, etc.). She entertains baby mostly in the den which doesn’t distract me or husband at all as our offices are not near the den…. But if I ever have a break I can go give him a kiss if I want. Or she’s out walking with him, going to the park, library, etc. I compare this to my sister who has a baby the same age and does daycare and sometimes it feels like my life is so much easier bc of my nanny. I will say that we lucked out bc she is amazing and very mature, so maybe not all nanny’s are like this.

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Came to say almost exactly this. My nanny takes care of so much of the day to day stuff for the baby (and for my older son like laundry or snacks after he’s home from school) which REALLY helps me focus on the kids after she leaves for the day because I’m not busy washing bottles or folding laundry. Also, I generally WFH in pajamas and not having to get dressed to do daycare drop off is a blessing.
If you didn’t have a separate space to work in at home, I’d say the baby might be a distraction. But if you’ll have your office to work in, baby won’t ever be in there, and there’s no reason baby will be a major distraction to you. It’s really nice to be able to pop out for kisses or to see baby while your take your lunch break.

My mantra that I’ve said over and over again on this thread and others:

There are pros and cons of both. Neither is perfect. Explore both and focus on the quality of care you can get in your area. A great daycare is better than a mediocre nanny. And vis versa.

If you’re concerned about vaccinations but otherwise open to daycare (and daycare is important for your husband), I don’t think it’s unreasonable for you to make that a required criteria as part of your search.

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