I am exhausted by Zoom and other virtual activities. Has anyone considered not doing a baby shower? It is our first and probably only baby and we want to celebrate but not looking forward to another awk Zoom gathering.

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My brother and SIL are expecting their first later this month. In lieu of a virtual baby shower they asked friends and family to send a short video, image, or note to be included in a virtual scrapbook. Have yet to see the finished product but thought it was a sweet idea.

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Just participated in a shower just like this. Easy peasy

I didn’t do one. I told everyone I wanted to wait until the baby was born and covid ends and do a “sip and see”. Originally we were thinking September because he will be 3 months (he’s 3 weeks old today) but now not so sure...

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I skipped having a baby shower / personally never wanted one even if the pandemic wasn’t happening. I hate being at the center of attention and would much prefer people just visit in small groups once the baby arrived. The shelter in place orders came down once baby was here but honestly I was such a mess the first 2 months I don’t think I could have handled visitors outside of immediate family who did social distance visits and dropped off food.

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Yup. Never had one, never wanted one. I’d imagine a zoom one would be even worse.

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This is going to sound silly, but we were gifted so many lovely things that I would totally find a way to do a shower. I love looking at things now and remembering who gifted them to us. For example, my grandma gave us our rocking chair. She has since passed away, but it’s so sentimental to me. Or a lovely quilt my husbands aunt made. It’s a nice way to let friends and family help you prepare for baby. You need so many things, it’s nice to have some help with them (in my opinion). Not to sound greedy or selfish- my husband and I could have afforded to purchase them ourselves.

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I agree! We also got our rocking chair from my grandmother and blankets from my SIL and so many books with handwritten notes in them.... so sweet and wonderful to think of them while using the items & have the memory of joining together to celebrate

A friend just had a baby shower where people were invited to join one of several 30 minute sessions. Each one had a theme like “fitness and recovery”, “work life balance” etc. and guests were invited to join whichever session they wanted. The parents-to-be and their family members guided the discussion with a few prompts they had planned. A little bit of extra work facilitating but as a guest it was very enjoyable and a low energy and time commitment. The conversation flowed well even among mostly strangers - something to think about if you want to celebrate and want to make sure you get gifts off your registry 😊 but feel uncomfortable with awkward silences among strangers.

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I never did one with either of my kids.

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Due in November and not doing one. Agree with others, I’m not interested a zoom, nor being the center attention. I don’t even like the thought of asking people to buy my baby things. I have been thinking about baby’s first birthday when hopefully we can all have fun again 🤗

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Didn't have one. We had a traditional "one month party" when baby was 1month old (it's a Chinese thing). Some people brought gifts then and I personally felt like it was a lot more meaningful after the fact than before. :)

I had a shower over zoom and had been skeptical about it but then it meant a lot more to see everyone than I’d excepted. Also organized one for a good friend. I’d keep it short (an hour?), pick interactive games, and not open gifts. For mine, my SIL dropped off a cake and decorations as well.

How many people attended? We’re doing on end of August and I’m worried it’s going to be too big of a group and get super awkward....people talking over each other or just being silent and weird.

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