I am finally so close to getting GC now after 11 yrs. I just feel extremely lost. I don’t know why I hung on to this for so long. In this 11 yrs, my favorite person, my dad, passed away. I didn’t get to spend more time with him. I had two heartaches. All my close friends had left US. Aside from my job, I don’t know what I have here. I also feel stupid to just leave the country after getting GC, because I would need to maintain it by coming back every 6 months. I am very depressed.

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Life is whatever you make of it

You can choose to wait if you feel you need the GC to validate your 11 years OR if you want to move back home, do it - don't worry about the last 11 years and live life looking forward

Go to a place where you have friends and family, after 11 years you probably are financially set up for success - don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy

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Sorry to hear about your loss. But the past is not something you can change. Think about the future, and make your decision about what you truly want in life and how this GC fits into that future.

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very similar for me, came from India to settle in UK. have lost my love, my friends, left family behind. feel stupid everyday of what am i doing here. i feel like moving back everyday , aside my career and good pay... have to ask everyday "Was it worth it".

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Sorry about your loss. Most people I know that have been abroad for this long can’t really feel their home country is “home” anymore.

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First of all, I am very sorry about your loss. Nothing we say is gonna make it easier, and nothing you think about your past is gonna fix it. The past is behind, so look forward and make the best decision for yourself today.

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Too late to feel that now….That’s how immigration process made it too longer..So nobody would really get anything to settle but, by the time we get settle then there is nothing left…. That’s my feeling…

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Same here

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I am sorry to hear your frustration here. Move on and focus on the things you have now. That is the only way out of this depression.

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