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I was in the same situation, but was delighted to get married to a woman who talks a lot. Really helped me break out of my shell and get more talkative myself. It was such a game changer for me. My friendships have become more delightful and my career has benefited from me expressing myself more at work. If you want to change yourself, this would be a blessing in disguise.
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Came here to say this. I am a chatterbox in my case
Everyone is different, so can’t generalize.
My wife and I are in a similar situation. I generally only speak when I have something useful/meaningful/important to say. I am also an introvert. My wife on the other hand needs to talk continuously, meet people constantly, hangout, chatter away every waking moment. She makes 10-15 phone calls every day to just randomly catch-up with family and friends. That’s what I do in a month, maybe.
I get annoyed because she is always talking and I can’t read a book, listen to news, or watch a movie without being interrupted every 2 minutes, nonstop.
She gets annoyed because I am always in deep concentration in whatever I’m doing and get irritated when she tries to get me to talk or engage with her.
We are able to make it work though. We both have a good understanding of our personalities and psychology. We have an appreciation of the benefits of our differences - I delegate making friends, engaging with our town and community, and keeping a pulse on what’s going on locally to her, while she delegates the learning, growing, and building a better life for our family to me. We also love each other, which helps.
The point that VP1 made is also important to consider. For me, I can be charming, engaging, and entertaining when needed. Just can’t be bothered to do that all day, as it takes time and energy that I can use elsewhere for other important things. But if you are someone that wants to be more outgoing but don’t know where to start, having a partner that’s an extrovert can help immensely.
The bottom line is the relationship will work if both of you are mature about your differences and limitations.
It will not work if either of you starts taking a stance that you are better than the other, and the other is wrong and needs to change.
But it will work if you are able to forgive each other for what you can’t do, and appreciate each other for what you can!
My suggestion is to have this conversation openly with her now and objectively assess if the both of you are capable of staying objective on this topic.
Good luck in your journey!
Find someone more suited to you. She will always complain. Been through it
I mean, it can work. But you both really need to be on the same page when it comes to communication. But also, it’s kinda weird that you rarely speak to her. Is that the kind of relationship you want?
So just small talk? 😐 that’s how I talk to my coworkers, not my spouse. I’m not saying you should talk more, but maybe you can try to communicate in other ways? (ie cute notes, through cooking, gifts, etc)