I am having a hard time cutting down on my alcohol consumption. I drink 3-5 drinks a night, every night. It hasn’t affected my job, but i worry about my health and my family.

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I literally just came from an AA meeting. What’s the saying, “contempt prior to investigation”? You can always try AA and see if you hear anything that you can relate to. Go online and choose an Open meeting; ideally a Beginners meeting. If you research the AA Big Book and look up how it defines alcoholic, you’ll probably get a better understanding of your own situation. It’ll either make sense or it won’t; if it does make sense, then AA can be the best thing that ever happened to you (it is for me).

You don’t have to be living under a bridge and drinking from a bag-wrapped can to benefit from AA. I go to a meeting with executives and business owners and successful retirees. Alcoholism is no discriminator. We all just want to get better by helping someone else get better.

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I’m half way thru reading “this naked mind”. Started reading so that I could support my alcoholic boyfriend but finding it useful to reassess my own drinking.

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I typically polish off a bottle of wine or a few glasses of wine and a couple of scotches every night. It started happening just while traveling, but is now every night. It hasn’t affected my performance, but I worry about the health impact and how it affects my family. I have gained a lot of weight, which makes me feel self-critical and makes me want a drink to escape. I sit in the hotel and think about having another glass because it helps pass the time. Or I want a glass to help take the edge off after a long day. Or I just decide to have a couple of glasses while I wait for my flight. I have tried to cut back but it doesn’t last - “it’s only one more glass of wine.” I went cold turkey for a few months as part of a fitness challenge, but within a couple of months after that, I was back to my old ways. I typically don’t have a hangover and have never blacked out, but it does make me feel a little sluggish in the morning sometimes. Obviously I have a high-stress life, but this feels like a crutch I need to remove. It has been going on for several years. Am I a “functioning alcoholic”? Not sure I want to give up wine completely because I really enjoy sharing it with friends. But I can’t seem to stop at a few glasses a week. My wife has been riding me pretty hard on this for several months, but I keep telling her I have it under control. But I am not sure I do, which causes me to get stressed and want to drink. AA seems harsh. Not sure what to do but this feels unsustainable... I am a mess.

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I’m the same. But I work out, eat healthy, take a liver supplement (milk thistle) and get vitals checked every 3 months. I like to drink and do what I can to mitigate the risks. Cheers

I’m proud of you for seeking help and some answers here. Your wife is likely riding you because she’s concerned. AA may seem intimating, but I’ve only encountered friendly people there. You’ll likely hear your own story, if you attend a meeting. You’d be surprised how many people will share “they didn’t think it was that bad."

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two things I learned early on (1) if you have to control something then it is out of control and (2) addiction is like a down elevator. you can chose what floor you get off but if you are an addict and dont stop it will get worse.

talk is cheap, go to some local meetings and see if you hear anything you like or that hits home.

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M2 how do I find a meeting with other professionals? Just came from one and it was scary, with people I don’t have a lot in common with. Can’t choose your co-diseasers I guess....

And sometimes that guy who has been in prison and spent years under a bridge is well-educated and once was a successful professional. Addiction doesn’t discriminate.

That said, I totally understand how finding a few peers with more commonality than just the disease is helpful and I felt most comfortable in a group that was similarly to me socioeconomically and demographically. But also some of the neatest people (who bring me the most inspiring words) are the ones I’ve met in the 12 Step world and likely never encounter anywhere else in my life.

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You need another crutch. Let go of the alcohol and replace it with gymming. You need to compulsively do something not necessarily drink.

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