I am having a problem with understanding. When my lead or someone explains something, being an introvert, I won't stop them at any point, even though I don’t understand a few things. Later I would complete the work based on partial understanding and some assumptions. This is demotivating me and also frustrating to other people as well. Lately feeling bad for myself and also for troubling others. How can I overcome this, please? How can I grasp things quickly? Thanks for your time.

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By asking questions when you don’t understand.

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Simple yet effective, Tq :)

I used to be like this early on in my career. It kinda helped me learn more than everyone else in the team coz everyone assumed I already know everything, so I HAD to figure things out. Self fulfilling prophecy I guess.

With more than a decade behind me now. I’m assertive and upfront when I need someone to pause and explain something. Honestly though, people should pause and ask you if you have questions every now and then.

You can note down your questions when they are talking and ask them at them at the end too. Just say - “I didn’t want to interrupt your flow, but I have a few follow up questions I’d like to discuss with you”.

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Thanks a lot for a great advice. I think I vl start with this approach 👏

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When they pause or take a big breath before continuing, that’s when you jump in.

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😀That’s a good one, I like it and will do it.

Less than ideal but be straight up about ur uneasiness. Best bet is to send a follow-up to ur lead w the detailed instructions. If anything needs fixing they’ll correct you. You got this!

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Thats a great advice and motivation, Thankyou 😊

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Your lead expects you to ask questions - ask them right at the beginning.

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Absolutely. I will keep that in mind and hopefully implement, Tq :)

Not stopping them has nothing to do with being an introvert. Literally, practice raising your hand a little and interrupting saying “Can I ask a question?”, and waiting for their response. People almost always pause and invite you to ask.

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Thanks for encouraging tip, I should start doing it and will do it :)

1. Break out of that fear and ask questions

2. Record the conversation so you can review it later

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Thank you, all your comments encouraging me to overcome that fear. Glad that I have shared, thanks again :)

Don’t have much advice, but I very much struggle with the same thing. Following for tips!

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I used to be like this last year during quarantine when I started 2 remote roles. I had panic attacks for the first time. I couldn't adjust to working remotely full time smoothly and I was also horrible at speaking up especially if there's more than 4 people or if there is someone else dominating the conversation. Prior to COVID, I was always working in person and that was much easier to speak up by will.

Suggestions:
• If your meetings are on Slack huddle, you can draw a hand outline on the screen (if someone is sharing their screen) to indicate you have something to say. My new team I just joined last month does that and it has helped ease the awkwardness tremendously. I haven't panicked since.

• If you're in Zoom, there's a raise hand button. You can use that whenever you're ready to ask a question. I believe Teams has the ability also.

• It may also help to ask yourself how do you learn best? Are you a visual learner? Listener? Kinetic (by watching and doing)? Or reading? Tell your lead that you've thought about your conversations recently and suggested to have a new framework for how you intake information - if you are a visual learner, ask for any examples of the work you need to be done. If you need the person to write out what they need of you or what they're explaining so you can refer back to it, ask for that. Since that's in their own words, it will help to understand and see what they are saying. If you need an agenda ahead of time, ask for that. Do you need more structure from them?

• It's a two way street so you're not fully at fault here. Your team hired you bc they see potential in you and you have the skills to do the job. They want you to succeed. It might feel like you're bothering others, but if you really need the help, it will never be annoying or bothersome. What will be is if the same outcome happens so do your best to think about what needs to change that will work for you to do better and try that for your next conversation with the Lead.

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