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I am heading into IVF and the clinic made us sign a document saying if one of us is tested positive for COVID, the whole procedure will be canceled. The testing must be performed at their site. My husband’s mom has been organizing a big family trip for two months. I already excused myself from that trip. But I am very worried my husband my get covid from this trip. His mom has a lot of friends who don’t believe in Covid, and she volunteers at a 2nd hand store. What would you do if you were me

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I don’t attend family/friend events where there are people who “don’t believe in covid” even when I’m not trying to conceive. I’d only attend or support him attending if everyone there were vaccinated. In addition, I’d ask if his mom wears a mask at work.

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If your husband and you really want to conceive, he should also be willing to sacrifice going on this trip. As a partnership, he shouldn’t be putting you at risk as this situation truly impacts BOTH of you and your future.

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That’s standard protocol now. Given the time and dollars at risk would urge husband to “quarantine” with you now until procedures are done.

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My clinic had the same policy. Plus I had to be COVID tested 3 times during the process, with the last test right before the egg retrieval (regardless of vaccination status). If I had tested positive at any point, they would have stopped the process. If I was in your position, I’d ask your husband not to go. The process is already hard enough and you’ll want to do everything you can to get the best outcome. Especially if you’re planning on using these embryos, it isn’t worth taking any risk.

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Are you and your husband vaccinated?

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I think that’s ridiculous the clinic makes you sign that, but if that’s your only choice… Can you start IVF after the trip and get tested? It’s hard to believe she doesn’t believe in COVID, are you sure they just don’t think it’s that severe given the death rate is low and it’s been 1.5 yrs and I assume everyone they know is okay. But regardless you can tell him the hospital believes it and IVF is very costly and demanding on the body, and the longer you wait (age) the more potential for complications

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Not ridiculous at all

You have to prioritize what’s important to you. Personally, I would either have my husband not go on the trip or postpone the IVF cycle by one month, after he has been tested negative. Btw. my clinic also made me sign a document about COVID; I think it’s quite common. However, my clinic doesn’t require a COVID test ahead of ER if you are vaccinated.

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Your husband shouldn’t go

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Thank you in advance for all the answers

If you’re doing frozen embryo you may be freeze the sperm beforehand. We did this for my husband who was heading in an important trip where I was worried he’d get Covid and also drinking for days before sample wouldn’t be ideal either, so we froze before. It also frankly helped to have 1 “scheduled” appointment in this whole process whereas mine were obviously so last minute.

This trip conflicts completely with his ability to support you while stimming, during retrieval and recovery. COVID-agnostic, he should really pull out of the trip. Or if that’s not an option you should push out starting a month or two.

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I am going through the exact same experience, and both my husband and I are vaccinated, (as are our family / friends), but given the extensive amount of stress, meds, and time this process takes, we are going into very strict self-quarantine leading up to the procedures. I would lose it if we tested positive at the finish line

Exact same boat. Given the emotional, physical and financial toll everything can take , I would have lost it if we tested positive and couldn’t proceed. Not worth the risk

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IVF is difficult as it is without adding both risk of COVID as well as risk of cancelation. I know my husband wouldn't have gone if that had been the case when we were going through it.

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