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I am hoping some people can help me here. My SO is in this horrible pit of depression and they are pushing me away. They have all these colliding events in the last few months: father has Alzheimer’s.

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OP, I’m so sorry that you and your SO are both going through all this. Have you tried suggesting therapy to your partner?

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Thank you for that nice response. And I did. And they pushed back. They’re an MD and don’t want to take any drugs.

Therapy doesn’t have to = drugs. I think In this case it’s the best solution for your SO. But they need to want it too, you can’t force them. Would they feel more comfortable going together?

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Actually your therapist is almost never your prescribing physician, and a doctor would know it because they would have done that rotation (unless OP meant managing director by MD). But if the SO can’t get out of bed I completely agree that medication is a must, even if it’s a short term Rx. SO seems to be pushing OP away and without more details it’s hard to say if it’s motivated by depression, wussing out on breaking up with OP, an addiction or something else. I guess how I would react if I were OP would depend on how long I’d been dating the SO. This is why LDRs are so hard. You only see a part of the person.

Don’t: is slowly diminishing, they were laid off a few months ago and they have just started doing contract work two days a week. They said that they don’t see any future with anyone and they can’t give me the attention I deserve. They kept saying that they don’t want to get out of bed and they are just moving through the day. And unfortunately I live in another city right now, so I could maybe do something. But hopefully I will be moving in the next month...despite them saying I shouldn’t move there for them. How do you handle a SO that’s in this state? I have been depressed as well so I know how impossible everything feels...but how do I say that? Is there any advice anyone can give?

I’m so confused... who’s they?

Yeah dont get the they part

I’m trying to maintain a level of discretion. Sorry for the confusion.

I get it but they= your SO’s parents? Your friends? Your parents?

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They is her SO.

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