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I am in a bit of pickle. I have a female manager who is super supportive and has always tried to promote me . However she is not a very good listener and usually misses lot of important points.contd

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Could you discuss with her and the other manager that it would be useful for the streams to be connected for x y z reasons. Make it completely not personal, but about the success of the project. If your arguments are strong, they will probably have to agree. Discuss together a cadence and suggest that you could be the connecting point so not everyone is on all calls. Report back to her on what is happening. At that point you would also have an opportunity to give her some suggestions ‘based on the working style observed’. This way you are helpful to her without giving her direct negative feedback.

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Paradox. You choose one and lose the other

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Pick the option that feels important to you

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Thank you d1 and kpmg1 for the advice . She has good influence in practice but not in account . She has fall out with others coz of several misunderstanding , due to the reason mentioned above . I genuinely care about her and want her to succeed. But I guess I should think about me first right ?

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It doesnt have to be a choice. Do what you need to do to be successful in the project, but it doesnt have to be at the cost of her mentorship. She's an adult who is managing her own career, if you think sharing info is helpful to you and her go ahead but if its all downside, you aren't required to tell her what people like and dont like about her. She can and should figure it out or maybe the whole account team should go down with the titanic if everyone is that manipulative and self-serving

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I think if you can unconditionally accept your manager for her fault of being a bad listener, you’ll see a lot of your frustrations go away and find more solutions to work with her without creating an adversarial relationship.

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She also has had conflicts with manager on other thread of the project and team member on that thread don’t like her .coz proximity they also do not include me in some of the important discussion.should I tell my manager about her shortcomings and try to patch things for her or should I support her no matter what and not care about other team members

Tell co workers you are you not an extension. Before you tell her of her shortcomings check the power and influence she has. Rather than say shortcomings make it about you. Write out your highlights concisely. Tell her you want to make it easy to sell you. Not sure why others don't like her you didn't say. If she has no influence then consider be assigned to someone who does.

Thanks M1 and P1 for the advice. Discussion is off the table , as swords have been drawn on both sides now . So sticking with her is what I am going to do.

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