I am in a really horrible professional situation and I don’t know what to think or feel. I started a new job just one month ago and encountered bias on my 1:1 with regards to several topics. I wish I could start a live session right now to talk to someone but I can’t. Has anyone started at a company and realized it was a mistake early on? What did you do? How long did you stay?

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I, too, was in a job I moved for, only to find it was a difficult job to navigate, politically and team-wise, a very dreary and austere work environment, a team that barely uttered words or even said hello; and I kicked myself for days and months while living apart from my husband. I endured silent tears in bathrooms and then wiped the tears and smiled in front of coworkers. With some pep talks and family support, I stayed, tried to make the best of it, trying to work around the edges. I manned up. I hit my stride at six months, slowly learning and growing in the client work. I began to make connections, produce excellent results, and developed gratitude in my job. By around 9 mos in, I encountered yet another toxic coworker that I could no longer tolerate and realized that was the straw the broke the camel’s back. I began the search to leave, and by month 11, I had three offers in hand, and was out of there in time. I’m so glad I left when I did. I’m also grateful for the learning opportunities. But when leaving crossed my mind at month 1, I would have gone for it then. Whether you leave at month 1 or month 11, it makes no difference. If it’s not the right cultural fit, you will not be happy and you will leave eventually. There’s nothing wrong with leaving early on as you noticed cultural red flags and a toxic work culture. I say, run for the hills.

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I just had a new manager leave after a month. She quickly realized that it wasn't the job she thought it would be. She used her network to find something else and is already happier. She will simply leave it off her resume and LinkedIn as a small gap.

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It’s always a good time to send out resumes.
It’s hard to report bias, but be careful to document any type of harassment.

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This one requires a tough look at your position in the situation is and what the source of the problem is, and what you have power over. Sit with yourself about what's the most that you can tolerate about something outside yourself without doing something, and how you could stretch that capacity. Wait one week longer than you want to on taking further action. Then move with confidence. Hope it all works out.

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I have. I took a few weeks to think it over and let the dust settle, then I ultimately left, but with a good job in hand. You have to sort out what's fixable, what's not.

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Well, for me, if you are not happy where you are, you need to find something else. Your mental anguish is worth more than putting up with all these.

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I left a company after 1 month, and had interviews at 8 jobs immediately after. I did my due diligence by speaking with HR and my manager and didn't feel any of the issues I raised were going to change. The job, my role, and state of the company was misrepresented during the interview. If you try to solve it and it goes nowhere, or think that things won't change, move on.

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Can you leave it out of your resume?

What happened?

Ahhh, maybe yeah... with you being new on the scene, it may only end badly just because you haven’t been there long. Are you concerned they’ll end up treating you the same way?

Can you look for internal opportunities?

Not for two years. I’ve only been here for a month.

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