I am in a wedding this weekend.

I usually spend $100 on the wedding gift, along with everything else to be in the wedding, but I found a gift that matched their personalities and purchased that instead for around $50.

Am I a cheap friend to keep the other $50 or should I give it to them in a card?

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I think you are over thinking it. If it’s a heartfelt gift, it could outweigh the $ amount. You could also give the gift plus $50 in a card which could be really sweet & it’s entirely up to you/your budget. The only time I’d challenge this is if you are a friend who flexes fancy brands or high luxe living but hesitate to gift to be frugal

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It might just be me, but if you picked something that you knew would be meaningful, that’s enough. But I’m also a sentimental sap 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Extremely jealous of this post. I am assuming you don’t live in the New York City area. We have to give at-least $150-200 a person here.

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Is this a class thing? Or difference in getting married in your 30s versus married in your 20s?I got married 10 years ago (US South), and other than gifts from parents, $20-$30 was the norm. We haven’t had THAT much inflation this decade. (Equivalent to $25 - $35 today)

When you’re in a wedding and helping throw showers, etc, I think it’s totally acceptable to give a gift of less monetary value than if you were a wedding guest. You’re one of the bride’s closest friends and I think it’s so sweet that you found a gift that you think is just perfect for them! To me, I’d be weirded out if someone in my bridal party gave me a card with cash in it...I know how much time/effort/love they already put into my day that I’d never want cash from them!

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Awww. That’s sweet, thanks for that POV.

You’re in the wedding right? If so, then no, you’re not being cheap. But if you’re just attending the wedding as a guest then yes, you should provide another gift. Generally the price of the gift should cover the price of your plate.

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Being part of the bridal party is expensive! You’ve already done your part. Any additional gift you give them is out of pure generosity.

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buy another gift that looks like it's more than $50, Jesus are you a year 1 staff? do you know how much weddings are? $100 isn't even going to cover your meal

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Where I live in the Midwest weddings are buffet style with the cost being about $5/plate. No joke 😆

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If you need the extra 50 for a unexpected expense that popped up, I’d pocket it. But I wouldn’t just save the extra 50 with no immediate use for it.

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Already for this morning, I’m like, we need this, that, and this and it’s already spent.

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Dang… when I got married 2011 in the US South, the norm for wedding gifts was $20-$30. Only parents of the bride and groom were giving $100 or more. Is this a very class-specific standard for wedding costs?

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That’s crazy. I think it probably depends on the venue, though I don’t think you actually need to cover the cost of the plate. My food and drink cost was $250 per guest, and I didn’t expect to get that much per person. I’d say I got $100-150 per person as a gift, but that was in 2013.

Give them in a card! It’s wedding not birthday gift.

I already ordered the gift; but wondering if I do a card for the extra money I budgeted for a gift or not.

Update:

Extra money (and plus some) has been spent on getting more snacks for when we get ready.

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