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I think you are over thinking it. If it’s a heartfelt gift, it could outweigh the $ amount. You could also give the gift plus $50 in a card which could be really sweet & it’s entirely up to you/your budget. The only time I’d challenge this is if you are a friend who flexes fancy brands or high luxe living but hesitate to gift to be frugal
It might just be me, but if you picked something that you knew would be meaningful, that’s enough. But I’m also a sentimental sap 🤷🏼♀️
Extremely jealous of this post. I am assuming you don’t live in the New York City area. We have to give at-least $150-200 a person here.
Is this a class thing? Or difference in getting married in your 30s versus married in your 20s?I got married 10 years ago (US South), and other than gifts from parents, $20-$30 was the norm. We haven’t had THAT much inflation this decade. (Equivalent to $25 - $35 today)
When you’re in a wedding and helping throw showers, etc, I think it’s totally acceptable to give a gift of less monetary value than if you were a wedding guest. You’re one of the bride’s closest friends and I think it’s so sweet that you found a gift that you think is just perfect for them! To me, I’d be weirded out if someone in my bridal party gave me a card with cash in it...I know how much time/effort/love they already put into my day that I’d never want cash from them!
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Awww. That’s sweet, thanks for that POV.
You’re in the wedding right? If so, then no, you’re not being cheap. But if you’re just attending the wedding as a guest then yes, you should provide another gift. Generally the price of the gift should cover the price of your plate.
Being part of the bridal party is expensive! You’ve already done your part. Any additional gift you give them is out of pure generosity.
buy another gift that looks like it's more than $50, Jesus are you a year 1 staff? do you know how much weddings are? $100 isn't even going to cover your meal
Where I live in the Midwest weddings are buffet style with the cost being about $5/plate. No joke 😆
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If you need the extra 50 for a unexpected expense that popped up, I’d pocket it. But I wouldn’t just save the extra 50 with no immediate use for it.
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Already for this morning, I’m like, we need this, that, and this and it’s already spent.
Dang… when I got married 2011 in the US South, the norm for wedding gifts was $20-$30. Only parents of the bride and groom were giving $100 or more. Is this a very class-specific standard for wedding costs?
That’s crazy. I think it probably depends on the venue, though I don’t think you actually need to cover the cost of the plate. My food and drink cost was $250 per guest, and I didn’t expect to get that much per person. I’d say I got $100-150 per person as a gift, but that was in 2013.
Give them in a card! It’s wedding not birthday gift.
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I already ordered the gift; but wondering if I do a card for the extra money I budgeted for a gift or not.
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Update:
Extra money (and plus some) has been spent on getting more snacks for when we get ready.