I am in my 30s, earning significantly lower than all of my friends in the same field because I made a career change late. Dealing with constant anxiety and depression (not just bc of this). No one around me can relate, and most of my friends are in stable careers already. I feel isolated, feeling like I can’t talk to anyone because no one cares. Like this post if you’ve ever felt the same way. If you have felt/are feeling the same, who do you all turn to?

Divorce or not? Loveless marriage, but love our 2 children and enjoying being close to them. Seeing my brother struggle with joint custody and think this is not for me. Too lazy/busy to rock the boat.

Working up the courage to break up with my guy. We’ve sort of drifted, no longer affectionate or anything. But still, I’m terrified of hurting him. First time doing this. Any advice?

Parents who have or have had a baby. How was the first year or two for you? Was it awesome, was it terrible, did it change your relationship with your partner? Did you regret it, did you want out? I've heard that having a baby can really change things between you and your partner and that a lot of marriages fall apart at that point. Just interested in stories and feedback.

Also curious if one partner kind of pressured the other into having a child/was driving force in wanting the baby.

Hi everyone! I just wanted to remind you all that you can still bite your tongue while eating. This is proof that even if you have literal decades of doing something daily, you can still make mistakes. So don’t be so hard on yourself if you make mistakes! 💜

Just started on antidepressants. It's never too late to ask for help

What’s the number 1 reason why you haven’t (or didn’t in the past) sought out support for your mental well being?

Going through a rough patch, mental-health wise. I have always been a high performer and dont back down from challenges. But this past month something feels off in my head and I have 0% motivation for anything at the moment. Brief run down: work-stress, meeting expectations, fear of failure, imposter-syndrome, negative self-image (probably from all the time I spend on IG… might need therapy. 🥲
I don’t know what went wrong, but I don’t think I’m the only one to have felt this. Sorry for the sads!

I have my frozen embryo transfer next month. I just got my “schedule”. Coming in day 2 and day 12, again day16 and a few other days here and there. All I could think about was how in the world am I...

When exactly is it going to be ‘post-pandemic’? People mention it like it’s going to happen in 6 months...

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Pet insurance: anyone have it? Any recommendations or thoughts on it?

Is VIDA really requiring booster shots before hospitals do? This doesn’t seem right.

Question: ok I need to take the FL bar to practice down here but I am autoimmune compromised.... do I postpone till February or roll the dice and hopefully not die ? Thoughts ?

Sister going through divorce with verbally abusive spouse, just received temporary judgement for custody of two year old and was awarded joint custody (she was anticipating she’d get sole custody). It’s tearing her apart and I can’t help/live in another state. Anyone have a good recommendation for family lawyers or counselors in/around Phoenix? Any good support groups that could help?

Sadly this is where I ended up (going through divorce with 6mo infant). Abusive spouse wants shared custody when he doesn’t know a thing about taking care of an infant.. any advice would help re custody or divorce as well. We are not in speaking terms

Could someone suggest a really good attorney for a contested divorce case in SF Bay Area ? Thanks

Hi All,

Wanted to know from married folks
What's your frequency of having saxx during initial stage of marriage.

Thanks

Yesterday was my first day taking Adderall since college. I crashed really hard. Can anyone offer any advice on how to deal with the terrible crashes? I used to smoke a lot of weed in college, but not sure if that’s the best route to go now.

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 35, along with Major Depression, likely have PTSD, and the potential for me to become bipolar is high. Moved cross country away from an abusive family situation. Fortunately, I have a great psychiatrist who has helped me understand and try to accept this new information. He is medicating me well, adjusting as needed, all after utilizing a DNA test to see what’s most effective for my physiology. The problem now, I’m afraid to try to work again. I don’t know who I am.

I previously didn't know that mutual funds need to be captured in independence checkpoint in PwC. I have added them now. Would that be a problem? It has been already an year since I joined. I have many of them even before joining.

Has everyone turned off their after-tax contributions given that back door Roth has been closed? :-(

Is there a good book to teach kids, teens and even college students about personal finance or should i write one?!

Anyone been through the JP Morgan initial phone/recruiter interview? Any insights on questions asked?

Is it possible for an analyst in asset management to go into Private equity without an MBA? Just curious on how likely that could happen

What are your favorite excel macros to make you more efficient at work?

Is doing APICS certification worth the time and efforts?

Anyone here have side gigs? Trying to figure out what I can do on the side for extra cash with m&a skills

What is the "restructuring" currently happening at Gartner consulting. Does anyone know?

anything out there that’s tax beneficial for high income EMPLOYEES other than permanent life insurance? They are not self employed and are maxing out 401k. New and haven’t had this come up much...

Best clam chowder in town?

Does supply chain & operations work under a consulting type sales model? I’m really interested in learning about the team but don’t know anybody in my network in this practice. Any takers?

Thoughts on JWN puts back over $20 after surging 15% + today?

What I tell you. Checooooooooooooo

I have two job offers, one as a waiter and one as a bartender. Which one would you take? I’m thinking bartender for the tips.

I’m current a second year associate at big 4 and so is my girlfriend (but diff firm). If she were to leave and accept a job at my client in an internal controls position, would I need to disclose this to my team? It sounds like ethically yes but on paper in the guidelines, it says as long as we’re not married we aren’t obligated to. Don’t live with her or have kids or anything. Just a long time girlfriend, and we’re both at the staff level

Once in a while I get a sudden pang of inadequacy. I know that's incorrect and not fact based. I've had back to back massive successes. But this dark feeling always follows me and I hate it.

Hi guys was recruited by Crux informatics. They sent me a check to pay for some supplies before I even got started. (the job is remote) is this normal?

I feel like every recruiter just ghosts me. I know I shouldn’t take it personally but it makes me feel so worthless. I’m smart and good at my job and had good grades in school etc., so why am I always ignored for everything :( I feel like I’ll be stuck in this job forever and I’m not happy here.

Honest discussion about burn out: it is with you for the long run.
I burnt out at my last job and the job before that and now I’m at a really good firm that has no set billable hours and a really manageable workload, but it’s still difficult to get any work done. It will take a long time to fully recover from burn out.

Had a really rough few weeks, just started a new project while in quarantine and it’s a crazy disorganized one with many late nights. I don’t feel like I’m meeting the team’s expectations even though I am trying my hardest. I’ve had discussions with leadership who have said “we hear you” but nothing has changed. I don’t have time to look for a different job or to interview. I live alone and I just don’t see a way out of this.

It’s been one of those days. Crying nonstop and feeling just AWFUL. The thing is, can’t even pinpoint what is giving me so much agony. Probably the current state of the world and my life but that’s largely unchanged since a month or so ago. So why does a day like today happen out of nowhere? Does this happen to anyone else? How do you deal?

Anyone that takes a antidepressant also suffer or suffered from sleep issues / insomnia? If so have you had any success improving your sleep? I have tried multiple sleeping pills and don’t really help. I can usually eventually fall asleep, but I wake up multiple times in the night and then sometimes can’t fall back to sleep.

Has anyone ever been to a rehab facility or wellness retreat for an eating disorder/mental health issues? I was diagnosed with binge eating disorder, MDD, and GAD last year and nothing I’ve done has helped. I feel like I just need to be in a safe and supportive environment for some time to get some kind of grasp on my life. I just don’t feel like I can do this on my own

Does anyone else here feel drained? I don't if it's because of the continued lockdown here and wfh but I feel like I'm struggling which is impacting work

I’m depressed. Nothing unique about my depression - I’m in big law, my career defines me, when I’m not working I can’t find the will to get off the couch, I’m sad or I’m numb…I know I’m the only one that can make a change to my life…I’m on antidepressants. Just extremely unmotivated and paralyzed. Self-help books are not for me, but I am curious - has anyone tried a guided depression/anxiety journal? Any recommendations if so? Or, if you have experienced the same, what steps did you take?

Don’t know what to do - advice please.
Thought it was burnout with the kids. Have cut back to 4 days, husband takes kids one day… now I realise I’m still depressed. Is it loneliness? Deep depression (I’m on lithium already)… I mean what is it? And how do I find friends when I’m miserable?

It’s always 5:30am by the time I start falling asleep. I don’t know how to flip this pattern without benzos. I hate daytime and the sun.

How do you tell your friends that you’re struggling mentally? My close friends know I’m type-A and super anxious, but not aware of the extent to which it impacts my life. I also have high-functioning depression. I feel like I should open up to them about a recent episode that landed me in the hospital, but I’m so embarrassed I can’t find the words.

How do people address assholes in their lives?

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

Hey all, not to be that person, but I very much struggled and still have my bouts with depression. Going gluten free (strict for months to see improvement) helped me an insane amount with getting rid of my depression and lifting the fog. I still have anxiety but cutting out coffee has helped. Just passing along my experience in case it might help someone.

Up for consideration: being physically and psychologically disabled for life or dying? Which one is worse?

I'd be interested in talking with anyone about how my faith got me through my depression. I'm in the Bay Area and could meet in person.