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The advice above is great. Mine is a bit of a smaller take but make him find a hobby. I was the one who wanted to spend more time with my husband while he wanted to do other things. Well now I found a hobby and don’t need him as much anymore. I know it’s hard to find one but honestly helps so much.
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Is he money motivated? My husband doesn’t care about money at all and therefore he doesn’t care about promotions. He would rather spend more time with me than for me to chase promotions. It’s tough cuz I am money motivated and career oriented so I have to balance it out. But I guess my advice depends on whether he likes lavish things or not :)
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I think you should try to carve out an hour each day to hang out with him. Go for a walk or a grocery store run etc. Then hop back online and wrap up your day. This is what I do for my family (we have kids). I pause my workday from 6-8pm and engage with them and then if I have to hop back online at 8pm, I’ll put in a bit more time.
I also am careful not to make any big plans during the week in advance. If I happen to have time, then I’ll suggest something but I definitely don’t commit in advance during the week cuz you never know.
I have had to make some career moves towards WLB for the sake of my family. Luckily it hasn’t come with a pay cut at all and I still have a great career.
I feel like your husband! Maybe my perspective will help? My long term bf just got promoted and is working like crazy.. even on his days off sometimes he’ll go in to do this or that, and he’s constantly on his phone fielding calls and texts related to work. I understand this is important for him, and I try to support him, but him cancelling on plans or being too tired to go out with me nonverbally tells me he doesn’t care about me enough to prioritize spending time with me. It makes me feel sad, upset, and even resentful toward his work! I think you should have a talk about specific things the both of you can compromise on. I agree with the above comments that maybe you need to carve out time, even if it’s just an hour, to really spend time/engage with him. Ask him what his expectations are, and explain to him what you’re reasonably able to meet. On his end too, maybe he should pick up a hobby and go out with friends more to stay a bit busier, and be more understanding of your schedule. I’ve been on bumble bff to meet new friends & picked up a few hobbies, and my bf has agreed to plan a date for us once every few weeks & try to put his phone down during dinner. I’ll let you know how it goes!
Thanks for this perspective. I’m the one with the long hours at home and I wonder if my husband feels the same.
What are your pain points as a couple? What are the issues that usually cause a fight? I’d love to give some advice on what I learned during my growing pains with my husband but I don’t want to assume your situation
I totally second looking into the cleaning service and roomba. Great points Crowe.
Something else that hasn’t been said, but you should think about, your hours will not go down when you get promoted. PA is a constant loophole of this and the pressure you will feel post-promo will be even greater. If you set boundaries now with personal time and work it will help you avoid burnout in the future. It’s always a constant battle but WLB isn’t something you just get at a certain level, you have to carve it out for yourself.