I am so, so sad right now. I can’t call any of my friends because of the time zone but truthfully i don’t want to have to explain or face the judgement either. I can’t stop crying. I’m so sad, and I know eventually I’ll be ok but this moment feels like the lowest point ever. I hate myself so much for being so sad and that’s the last thing I need. I wish I could have a hug and for someone to tell me I’m fine and that I’ll be ok

My closest friend of 15 years told me she's been in love with me for several years. I don't know what to do. She's my closest friend. We talk about everything under the sun. I don't want to lose her. I could feel the pain in her voice as she told me this. She already knows she's just a friend to me. I'm serious about my girlfriend and we've discussed getting married. Is there anything I can do to lessen her pain and preserve the friendship?

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I'm 25 m from Rajasthan
My CCTC is 12.5 I'm getting an offer of 20 in banglore. But my dad doesn't want me to relocate, he says you should now settle down. Try for govt jobs private job bakwas h, otherwise find a job nearby.
I told him i have no interest in gov jobs to which he said disgustingly " interest nhi h baad m yaad krega " this sentence broke my heart,i dnt want to be disrespectful, but i feel guilty now as if I've let him down
Dnt knw Wht to do now I'm clueless

Today I REALLY miss sleeping in on Saturdays.

Been up since 6:30, and she had the nerve not to eat the pancakes I made. 😡😡😡

With current salary around 120k, should I pause my career to do a full time MBA or do something part time like the Booth Evening and Weekend program. goal is defense/national security consulting at MBB. It would put a lot of financial strain on my family for me to quit working and go to school full time but at the same time I worry that part time will drastically reduce my chances for the career I really want.

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, good for nothing husband and they regret that this marriage happened and dragged every single discussion/scenario that we had in these many months in front of the family members.

i never abused my wife, never demanded anything materialistic from her and or her family, i have taken her to different places, bought everything that she demanded for

Had a really intense 6 day fling with this guy who was visiting NYC for a week. Now he’s gone and I feel sad and longing for a relationship. Never had something like that before. Anyone else?

I can’t live with my spouse anymore and I think the feeling is mutual. We have kids (<10yrs) and I would hate to not be able to see them everyday. I’m afraid of the negative impact on the kids of this separation/divorce. Long term I don’t know what the solution is. Any advice would be appreciated. I feel like the biggest failure in the world.

In my quest to get over my ex, I started a secret Instagram account where I rate (scale of 0-10) the intercourse I’ve been having with people along with a tarot card

Would you be okay with your mother in law moving in if that meant you and your spouse got ownership of a fully paid off house in Key West that is worth 500K+? If MIL doesn’t move in with us, she would have to sell her house in KW to buy a house near us in cash. She’s recently widowed and is choosing to quit her job before retirement age. She wants to live with us and give us her house. What would you do?

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

How did you meet your spouse? Go. Dating apps aren’t doing it for me. 😢

Is it true that a guy never notices another guy but notices all the girls? My boyfriend and I just had a discussion about how he does not notice any guys in the gym but notices all the girls. When I tried to put forward my argument saying I notice both guys and girls so it should be the same case for him. He said it’s not the same for the guys. Can I get any male opinion on this or even female if they have experienced something similar in their relationship? Thanks!

Got a big raise yesterday and told my wife and she was happy for me, but I didn’t share with family because I feel uncomfortable making so much more than my parents. Anyone else?

Anyone have to retake their NIPT test? My results came back as insufficient quantify and I’m freaking out. I’m 11.5 weeks. Not a high BMI or anything so I’m worried something is wrong with my baby

Does ADHD have a big impact on your memory? It feels like if I don't have constant reminders set or leave notes for myself I can forget ANYTHING even if it's really important to me. I think it's making my partner feel like I don't remember the things they say or don't care to listen. What can I do?? Not on medication but if it helps with this I'd take it.

Does anyone have any success stories of being introduced to their partner (arranged marriage) by parents/family friends as a first gen? My main concerns are:
1) raising family’s hopes
2) timeline pressure
3) others having visibility on the process
4) not being able to be my true authentic self with the person I would be introduced to

Hi Fishes,
Can anyone please tell me what is the variable component (in terms of %age) in Wipro?

What is AIA at Cognizant??

Any HR people here want to share any stories about funny or interesting CRT meetings?

Best custom suit tailor in Bangkok? And whats the general price range for a suit? Thanks!

When taking over managing a project that’s already in progress, what’s your go-to method or process to figure out what the hell is going on holistically?

I had a second round(which was a final round as well) of an interview couple of days back. But yet to receive any feedback on it. Normally how much time hr team takes for a revert? Waiting makes me feel anxious.

Does anyone else feel flat after their interviews? Like… what am I supposed to do now?

Hey, is there a DSA and coding round for SRE roles also in Amazon?
I am a 12 years experienced SRE but my work has always been around systems, databases and OS and that too around administration? So, I haven't had any exposure to coding after college though I am pretty decent in python and bash scripting?

Hi all .. please help me with likes... Need 11 likes to DM

Anyone in this bowl work in NY but live in CT? And if so, can you explain if the difference between living and working in two different states has impacted you tax wise? Considering a move from NY to CT because of cost of rent differences. Thanks in advance!

can any explain the advantages/disadvantages of doing a lump sum pension payout rather than waiting till retirement? I no longer work for the company so does my pension not grow so getting lump sum is better to move to an IRA? thanks in advance!

What are the downsides and upsides of working for a LMM fund? Something like $500-700m funds and all in aum under 2b

When people add percents to their resume, where are they pulling the numbers out of? Like for example reduced costs by $xxx,xxx , or improved performance by 20%, or increased revenue by 15%? If you’re just fixing tickets and working on product feature enhancements (what I’m primarily doing), where do you get the numbers to put on your resume from? I haven’t updated my resume yet to include my current and first job, so it’s gonna be the first relevant work experience I put on there

Hi everyone. I made the switch to tech this year via coding boot camp. I'm not confident in my skill at all. Are there any courses, sites, projects or paths one would suggest I look into? Anything that'll help me think like a dev?

I have worked in the demand gen/paid acquisition department for two years and am looking to get involved in brand strategizing (working with marketing agencies, being great at brand voice, creative direction, etc). What’s your go-to resources to learn more about branding? And if you have had similar experience, what’s your journey like?

Currently in a strategy role in tech. I went from being a 5 star analyst to borderline 1 star since Covid started due to lack of motivation, manager micro-managing every detail of project since WFH started etc. My work is now 90% ops, 10% strategy (was 75/25 strategy before), and my manager has taken over the few projects I used to own due to them not having much work themselves. Is this classic writing on the wall for me to find exits?

I am currently working at one of the top tier company (service based)at a project which has come to like and end and very minimal work is there and the team wont give release since they have a minimal workforce and they kind outilize us for their support. As a budding developer I think its kind of a waste of time even though i can alawys keep leaening. Recently I got an offer from Infosys . Should I switch expecting good amount of project experience i will gain or shall i stay.

AOA everyone! I am a Pakistani currently living in Germany. I am in the final stages of getting a transfer to Canada but can’t decide between Toronto or Vancouver. Both have high COL so I’m trying to weigh the pros and cons. I know Vancouver’s weather is a lot better than Toronto, but any recommendations from Canadians on the bowl?

How to get release from an important project??

Everyday I can’t seem to hit the required billable hours. I’m overwhelmed by emails and people asking me where an item is. I feel like I’m not good enough. I keep making mistakes I shouldn’t make at my level. I wish I could just quit so I wouldn’t have to be miserable everyday.

I am realising that “being happy at work” is a myth, and the whole love what you do stuff is also BS. Novelty wears off eventually. I guess job/work is something I’ll have to do if I want to be able to afford the luxuries of life and I’ll need to find happiness elsewhere. Does anyone else feel the same way? I don’t want to be negative but I feel I need to change something somewhere.

Feeling very unloved by my family, my friends, in life in general, my SO. Please comment with something funny or cute 💚❤️

Dealing with post partum dep/anx. On my 5th day of Zoloft 50mg for the first time and the days are still really really hard. Is it the side effects? How long before I should feel somewhat better/normal? Really struggling today. Any insight into your experience would mean a lot.

Decided I’m going to quit in the medium term to take some time off. It’s been really difficult to keep the same work ethic and as a result am creating more anxiety for myself. Any advice? (Contd)

What's causing me so much stress about work? How can I slow my heart down? Sunday PM is a nightmare walking into the week.

Please help!

Is there an app out there that will tell you if you’re having a negative thought and what the associated pattern is? Reading all these ChatGPT things makes it feel like this would be helpful in times you need some help.

Any woman here who suffers from either PMDD or bipolar disorder? How did your doctors know the difference? I experience severe depression the week before my period and am very easy to set off/lose myself. Like full on hating myself, over sensitivity, and wishing to unalive. Then during my period plus after I return to “manic” happiness and productivity. Both my mother and grandmother were diagnosed as bipolar yet also had menstrual problems and I’m beginning to think they were misdiagnosed.

4th yr lit assoc: I left my last firm (because I knew it was on the verge of imploding) confident I’d quickly find another job. It’s been three months, and I was turned down by three firms for which I really thought I’d be a great fit. I know I have to keep going, but I’m finding it hard to keep putting myself out there, and I’m finding it even harder to believe I have anything to offer any firm rn. I’d appreciate any words of encouragement, dog pictures, pick-me-up ideas, etc. Thank you.

I’ve been on Wellbutrin for about a year and it was working…but I feel the depression coming back. I don’t want to just keep upping the dosage (went from 150 -> 200). I’m not too sure what to do and therapy is something I can’t afford right now with my recent rent increase. Any thoughts or advice?

For the last couple of months I’ve been dreading going to work. So bad that there have been days I purposely went to work late to limit my time there. This job is draining and I don’t feel (contd)

Anyone else suffering from eating disorder?

I accidentally overshared information about having anxiety and trouble focusing with someone who is kind of important at the company and now I regret it. She never responded and probably forgot about it but my husband told me that I shouldn’t have done that and I shouldn’t share things like that with people at work unless you are really close with them and now I’m freaking out and crying because I’m scared she will remember that and tell my boss or other higher up people.

I started taking Wellbutrin last week. I feel restless and low energy last few days. Also, feel bit dizzy sometime after the medication. Usually how many days will it take for the medication to work?

Have a job interview for a role I’m excited about tomorrow but I’m so depressed and tired I can’t even muster up the energy to prep. Any words of encouragement would be great

Hope everyone in PwC is staying strong after the results were communicated for year end CRT. Remember this job is not the only thing that defines you and there is more to life more than trying for the elusive tier 1. Just wanted to throw this line for people struggling.