I am sure that I am not alone - Both Husband and wife working, Got a young child, who can not go to Childcare. Your boss expects you to deliver things, and team need you at work, at home your wife need your support si that she can attend meetings and get those task done... As a parent how are you feeling mentally and emotionally ??? Are you Frustrated or Angry with government messaging and managing expectations.
How are you feeling overall ? Would be interesting to know how you feel.

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What I meant is communication in Australia from government is very unclear and each states are running their own show with border lockdown. Closing the childcare for general public only children if essential workers are allowed at this stage

I'm sorry you're going through this. In March - May 2020 a lot of people in America went through similar difficulty. I know some states still have had restrictions on daycare way more recently.

As a non-parent I tried to be very patient and understanding of my direct reports with children. I suggest you let your teams know when you have conflicts. Perhaps take turns rescheduling or canceling meetings when the two of you have meetings at the same time if you must.

This is temporary and you will get through it!

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It’s so interesting aus is going through this a year and a half after the us. There is only two solutions to this: either one of you does more of the childcare and eventually gets fired or one of you quits before that happens

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Or you find alternative childcare? Or one works nights while the other days? There’s more than two options here…

We hired a nanny when daycares closed last year.

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Ours was $12.50 an hour. She was a college student, and we worked from home so she just played with our kids while we worked.

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Frustrated, angry, unhealthy, and like I wasn't actually successfully doing anything in any facet of life. My wife is a Saint, and I am constantly grateful for her ability to keep everything rolling at home while I am being pulled in opposite directions.

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Wait a minute. And any other time other than Covid one of you would have to stay home and take care of the child if your kid is unable to go into some sort of care. Plus that’s semi- unbelievable because most children can start going to care relatively early it’s just expensive. So what is your actual bright.

Personally I’m completely fried as a parent but I also do appreciate the time I think that the pandemic has highlighted the fact that people sometimes do not have the best balance or they are exposed to what their spouse has to do while they’re normally at work

And to be clear I’m super empathetic and I hope you can find a way out of it. However, I am really interested in how today is different than other situations because at least for me in most cases the pandemic has helped me create balance because people are understanding. That being said I’m still fried as are a lot of other people.

If a child is sick then I would take sick leave or carer leave but in this scenario you know that it will get over and you can foxus back. I agree that pandemic have really highlighted to both parents that without team work and helping each other only they can survive but what I am stating is that when you have conflict meetings then options are either give a screen time to kid or attned a meeting with half focus which lead to guilt of unproductiveness.

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I don’t have the energy to be angry or frustrated. Just need to get through this.

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