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I’d divorce you without even a moment’s hesitation.
Have your husband take the dog to daycare on his way to work, and pick him up on his way home. Then at home, the dog becomes his responsibility entirely.
You won’t have to deal with the dog, and he won’t have to give up a companion/friend I’m sure he loves. It sounds like your relationship already went through significant challenges, and removing his dog will likely add new ones.
PM I learned the dog proofing thing quickly after losing my favorite pair of sandals, replacing them, then losing those too 😂
Pro
Well. If you cant stop your husband from trash digging, you can always leave and take the dog with you.
Rising Star
It sounds like the dog needs more interaction and opportunities to get outside/expend energy. Possibly training?
The hair and smell can be fixed with baths and grooming.
If it's your husband's dog, why isn't he taking care of it?
Pro
OP - this is really sad. There are so many options. The dog is being penalized for your lack of resourcefulness. If my SO wanted to get rid of my dog, I’d get rid of him. BTW training is great but, just like a human, if he doesn’t have a stimulating outlet to get all his energy out, he’s certainly not going to want to sit, shake and roll over 9M times/day. We WFH but our dog goes to doggie day care and has frequent play dates because she’s much happier (and calmer) after hanging out with her squad and burning off a lot of energy.
Rising Star
Would you rehome a baby? Then why a dog?
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Fishbowl did not disappoint tonight. These comments 🤣
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Based on your answers here, it sounds like the husband should have never gotten a dog in the first place. I am an animal lover and have multiple dogs and vehemently believe in forever homes but there are always exceptions. It’s better you know that you can’t provide the home this dog needs now than later. It’s going to be very traumatic for him to be rehomed.
Here are the unfortunate facts, this is a large dog that requires an experienced owner and he’s learned some bad habits already. He’s past the cute little puppy stage so he’s going to be more difficult to rehome but please, do not take him to a shelter. They will more than likely euthanize him and it isn’t his fault that your husband was irresponsible.
Your best bet is to contact local rescue groups and use your network. Post stories on Instagram, reach out on Facebook. Even dog lover work Slack channels. Maybe even a local area Fishbowl! There is definitely someone who isn’t far away from you wishing they had a dog who would love to take him.
In the meantime, for your immediate sanity. Google Kong toy, put peanut butter in it, freeze it. Then give it to him (I keep 4 on rotation for my dogs) There are other great puzzles as well that he may love. That will help occupy him while you’re working. If you can afford it, dog daycare is even better! (And they might have resources to help with the rehoming efforts).
And for the love of god, never let him come home with a dog again.
UGH, you’re an awful human! Of the many options people have thrown out in this thread, it sounds like you barely thought through/researched/tried any in the first place. Also, in your mind animals are disposable but somehow not children. Did you ask your husband for 3 kids? Was each of your pregnancies planned? If you’re that stressed out and overwhelmed, put your kids up for adoption too 🤷♀️ honestly, this isn’t really about the dog as much as it is about you IMO… the dog reminds you of the separation and you’re wanting to punish the dog rather than do the work with your husband.
All of the issues you gave are fixable with time and resources AND attention. A dog doesn’t mentally progress like children, they surely cannot talk and do not magically become perfect overnight or because you shell out a couple hundred for a few months. Training a dog takes repetition and that continues even AFTER they’ve gone through programs.
How about having an honest convo with your husband and developing a plan for the dog? I’m sure you all would do it for the kids. Set some rules - dog goes to daycare 2-3x a week and your husband needs to set it up and be responsible for drop off and/or pick up. Find another dog trainer that can focus on the issues you noted but you all need to commit to continuing the training at home as well. Your husband got the dog, he needs to be the main caretaker. If that means the dog goes to the office with him, so be it. He needs to figure it out. I take my puppy in with me 3x a week and my other two stay at home alone or at my parents house.
This thread was very entertaining. Thanks for the afternoon pick me up!
Pro
Seriously though, dogs need to use their energy. Doggy day care tires my daughters dog, my dog gets daily 4 mile hill hikes.
Rising Star
Poor dog. He just wants some love and attention. 10 months is not that long, tbh. Are you a “dog person?”
If no, then why was this not discussed or anticipated ahead of time? 120 lbs dog is not a small matter, pun intended.
One possible win-win solution is a two-to-three week boot camp training? Many of the K9 type training schools will keep the dog throughout the training duration, so you can gain some peace and quiet and the dog can learn how to behave? It may be worth the chance. Dogs experience trauma, so giving him up to a shelter is a little heart breaking.
Enthusiast
You should rehome yourself. You’re awful and if your husband allows this.. so is he.
You are NOT awful.
Chief
As others have suggested, doggy daycare is a lifesaver for high energy dogs. I’d recommend you research and find a few for your husband - and tell him it’s his job to drop the dog off and pick up. I also would tell him he needs to walk the dog before work if he isn’t dropping off at daycare. That dog probably also needs to be trained again, so I’d put that on your husband too.
Dogs can be great for kids too - but they are a lot of work. I’d definitely have your husband take more ownership and figure things out.
Rising Star
I’m petting my dog as I’m scrolling through this thread. She’s getting extra cuddles tonight.
Op, I feel for you. You’re not an awful person. You’re just not a dog person. It doesn’t make you awful.
I hope your husband takes more responsibility and ownership in this process. A dog is a lot of work. An untrained, energetic, large breed dog is a lot to manage.
I hope it works out for your family, doggo and your sanity in the end. Rooting for y’all!
Your husband’s resentment toward you will grow if you get rid of the dog. It won’t end well. Learn to care for the dog like it’s family. 🐶🐾
Does your husband know you’re trying to rehome his dog…?
Breed? Great Pyrenees?
Most rescues are overwhelmed and shelters in general are euthanizing dogs on a daily basis to make room since so many people don’t want to put in the work for the dog they chose. Please don’t take this option.
I work from home and I still put my dog in daycare 2-3 days a week. He loves it, it tires him out, so when he’s home he just relaxes with us on the couch & sleeps. I’m not active enough to give him the exercise he needs so I outsource.
If he’s causing trouble it’s because he’s not getting enough exercise. You need to give him a lot more interaction. And if you don’t want to do that just put him in a local doggy day care.
A dog is not a human!! Shame on everyone attacking OP! OP, I hope you are able to rehome the dog soon.
Rising Star
VP2: clearly you have not binge watched ID shows. Pretty sure people do the same thing to other people, and worse.
Enthusiast
Try calling local private rescues that you know will treat him/her better while trying to find a new home.
Enthusiast
120 lb dog. Invest in a doggy day care a few times a week to get that energy out long walks. Running in the park. He’s bored at home.
Enthusiast
Do people lack reading comprehension skills or do they just not care about what she’s actually asking for? 😵💫
Rising Star
Accenture - I answered a question. My comment did not indicate if it was her responsibility or not to take care of the dog. My comment is stating that she didn't want to which she herself has indicated.
There's no fight here. Stop trying to start an argument.