I am very open about my mental illness (depression+anxiety) and happy to say it doesn’t seem to have negatively impacted my coworkers perceptions of me at all. So grateful I did! Any Qs I can answer?

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That’s probably the hardest part but know this: most people today, at least in my experience, don’t really care about any diagnosis. I just started bringing it up casually like, “sorry, Im going to skip team dinner tonight, my anxiety is really acting up.” Or when people ask about my weekend, I try to be honest: “my depression was pretty strong this week so I just stayed home and watched my favorite movies.” Most people want to know that 1) you’re okay/working to take care of yourself and 2) your illness won’t impact them at work, which, if you communicate, it usually won’t.

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Once my manager and closest coworkers all knew, it empowered me to let them know when I wasn’t at my best, or when I couldn’t handle any more. It became really easy to share any ups and downs I was dealing with and now when my coworkers ask “How are you?” I feel like they really mean it.

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I’d like to be able to tell them but still fearful of any impact. Not like saying you have the flu and need to take a day or two.

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How did you begin opening up about it? What do you say? I'm so fearful

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I opened up to my manager about my anxiety and depression and got the “suck it up” response. It makes me embarrassed to talk about it even though I am really suffering right now. I guess some managers are more receptive than others.

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