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This sounds like a you problem
It's a choice you made, make different choices or suck it up. Unfortunate reality for most of us.
No, it sounds like a society problem
Oh come on guys, OP is just venting. Not every fb post has to be in a question format. Also, maybe "hate" is a strong word but I get what you're getting at. I'm about to give birth to my first and constantly wondering whether I'll still be happy in this job if I'm feeling exhausted from wearing multiple hats and trying to do everything. I don't have stay at home mommy friends but I'm definitely afraid of blaming my husband for my own choices, especially if I feel like he's not doing enough on the baby front.
What is the point of this post? You can change your choices if you want but don't resent others for making different choices to yours
I feel for you mommies in consulting. I have a lot of respect for you all. Don't know how you do it. Hats off. I have a hard time baby sitting myself and going to gym twice a week.
If you get to the point where you resent other people for their joy, then that's your issue. My guess is that you wouldn't be satisfied with yourself in the same sort of lifestyle. If you would- then quit! Life's too short to dwell in resentment because you work hard. Only work hard if you want to, and for things you care about
Guys thanks for the reassurance, i am just stressed and exhausted with the grind and dislike how some people look like they have it easy. I am an immigrant and quitting unfortunately is not an easy option given the visa issues
Why dont you show them your LVs and Pradas bought from your own money
Yea agree totally my problem
How is this a society problem D1? That statement doesn't seem to be well reasoned but I'd like to hear your logic
If my friend we venting to me like this, I'd say the same thing. Resenting others is more personal than it is about them, that's all
YP
Why do you hate them?
You guys are bizarre with your "your choice" nonsense...
How is this a society problem D1? Curious to hear your reasoning behind this.
I will likely be in this boat as well in a few years. You're probably wondering how nice it would be to have the option to stay home, but you can't and feel frustrated. These are also precious years with your child. Can you dial down your hours or say hey team after 4:30, my phone is off, I'll check it once before bed, then be back in the office at such and such a time? Most well run teams understand when someone is a parent, especially with kids toddler age and under.
As a working mom, we have choices. No one is forcing you to stay in consulting. Also, why the hate...that will eat you alive
Go industry or internal
P3 and D3- firstly, it was a quick reply in the middle of the day. After reading OP's post, my first initial thought would never be, "this is a society problem," but when so many people kept saying that this was all on OP and her choices, I felt the need to point out many of the larger issues that contribute to this dynamic- 1. How our work place structures have not caught up with the times (recommended reading- Unfinished Business by Anne Marie Slaughter), 2. How some women leave the workforce entirely once they have kids, often because of the bullshit that made them not love their jobs before kids were ever in the picture (recommended reading- Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg), or 3. The concept of a "second shift," how women work "like a dog" at work and then go home to do even more work and that a disproportionate amount of "care" work tends to fall on women (recommended reading-just google bc there are too many to cite here), and 4. The stupid concept of Mommy Wars aka Stay at home moms vs working moms. OP further brought up a point about her visa as as much as this is a "choice," I don't think that it is fair or reasonable to imply that this is the same kind of major life decision choice that others would face in different situations. I'm not interested in starting some big discussion where I defend everything I have written so if you attack me and I don't write back, that could be why, but the Anne Marie Slaughter book Unfinished Business is an excellent read for just about everyone, regardless of this thread or where you come down on this topic. You asked for my logic and there it is. Have a nice night!