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I am writing a piece on sexism in the corporate workplace. Covering blatant (i.e. salary) and subtle (i.e. excluding women from golf outings) instances of sexism. Would love to hear relevant stories!

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Female here, and I can confidently say that single and divorced men have it the worst in terms of workload. I've actually heard people say "give it to John, he doesn't have anything else outside of work." It's really fucked up that we assume that a single person gets the short straw on weekend or holiday work. As far as my personal experience, I'm often pigeonholed into getting crappy gendered career advice BY OTHER WOMEN. I don't need to learn to be more confident, i am not currently a mother, and all women do not have the same issues. I see the worst from other women - but never has any of my male team members, junior peer or senior, treated me with anything other that equal respect. The client on the other hand... I've only seen small slights and unconscious bias (assuming I'm more junior, asking me to get coffee, etc). Me or my team usually corrects them to clear it up right away.

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Passed over for more intensive roles Bc I was a mother - not even asked if I wanted it even though I was def more experienced. Just assuming since I had young children at home I wouldnt want it - left that firm and specifically do not discuss my children nor do they know I have them - I was promoted in a year and I have been selected part of the upcoming leaders Getting assigned the extra hours Bc you don't have a family/children also catapults you to the forefront - it can be a blessing (and an unfair advantage) in disguise Was also told many "oh just go home you have young children" while they never said this to my male counterparts who did

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The girls on my team often plan lunches together and do not invite the guys. Their calendar invite says "girl time only" Female manager in the past would always threaten to "rip my nuts off" if I messed something up with a PowerPoint. We weren't allowed to do a team March madness pool this year because we weren't doing one for the women's tourney as well. Just a few examples of sexism I have encountered (admittedly 3rd point is a little shaky)

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My wife makes more than I do, but she wishes I would earn more. Excluding women from golf outings sounds blatant.

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I'd love to see how you are going to cite your sources hahahaha "fishbowl user powerpointslayer69 says..."

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Having a "poker night" at the hotel...doesn't seem intentional at all but being the only women in a hotel room alone with a bunch of higher up men didn't seem like a comfortable experience to me so I didn't go, and missed a valuable opportunity for networking with PPDs/client because of it

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"Wow, you are aggressive today. Are you on your period?" Reported and ignored by ethics.

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"You need to smile more and talk less" -middle manager at pwc to me

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Being excluded from project planning/estimation meetings when my male peer is included. SM saying he thought I was a account management associate. Being the delegate to plan events, take notes in meetings. Being given the task of rewording / rephrasing and formatting content while my male peers get to focus on actual content in spite of having more relevant experience.

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Thanks so much for sharing. Please continue to do so. I am a woman on a team with all men working for a client who has fostered a 'boys club' mentality on the project. Every week there are 2 or 3 events - be it dinners, sports games, golf - that I am excluded from. It is really wearing on me. Its comforting/infuriating hearing similar stories from other women and from men too.

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I also had a Partner say drunk after a team dinner how he was annoyed the (all male) team couldn't go to a strip club because I was there. Saw a Sr male quid pro quo another more jr female on the team. Had a co-worker show up at my hotel room door in the middle of the night. Have been propositioned for affairs. Saw a woman be kicked out of a role Bc the client knew she had a baby at home. This stuff happens every. single. day..

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Peer being asked by someone he didn't know on the project to play in weekly soccer matches with other members of larger engagement team, getting him access to people we needed information from. Everyone in a team training session besides me (aka 4 males) being asked directly to present/answer questions. Later get feedback that I'm too quiet.

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@A6 - I was out with colleagues when a partner pulled a manager aside to talk to her and told her he wanted to have an affair with her and didn't understand why she didn't respond to his advances. Worse - she didn't know if she should report the incident. Team of six guys reported it because...WTHMF. Ultimate in failure - the firm DIDN'T fire the partner.

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OP, get in your notes how some tactics by women shouldn't be compared directly, because it's meant to make up for the disadvantages that are the standard. Also you should take time to now how both practices of men-only and women-only outings are gender essentialist, and tend to exclude anyone else on the gender spectrum. Trans and gender non conforming folks get marginalized with both of these actions! And they're the ones most likely to face discrimination across the board.

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Had a similar experience to M1. The complicated finance work went to the guys on the project and the Director told me that he was under the impression I didn't have the skill set to perform the "challenging" work. I have a Masters in Finance! The guys came to me for help but I was left basically being the admin to the client.

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I was at a firm where most women were placed into PMO or Human Capital roles and had to fight to get into Finance or Operations level work. I've heard the term "she'll be client facing" used to describe less than stellar, but attractive, undergrads a TON. Conversely, I've seen women leaders only staff women on their teams, not advocate for men on their team that were performing high quality work while supporting the women that were doing equal work.

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This MD introduced my male analyst to a client as the senior manager and me as the analyst.

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Guy reinvents a whole data management process, manages to open up a slew of sales venues. Misses an obvious mistake on a slide, gets yelled at. Female colleague makes a mistake much worse, pat on the back for trying #AmIMissingSomething?

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Another senior on a previous team would ignore comments by female team members. And then reiterate a paraphrased version 5 minutes later. We would call him out "that's what xxx just said" and he would say he didn't hear her. It got so bad he was reprimanded by the manager. My client calls other females (peer and superior) in his organization Bitches when he disagrees with them during our weekly meetings. On client site they would have Hawaiian shirt fridays, and they would usually wear jeans as well. I was told I couldn't wear jeans on Friday if I wasn't wearing a Hawaiian shirt.

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EY has a ton of gender discrimination all over the firm. Came to EY from Cap where I never knew what gender discrimination was. So may depend on where you are. By the way, when I say gender discrimination I mean against women. Read a couple posts on females discriminating men... please. The magnitude of the issue on the other side can never compare.

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@EY3 female 🐠 here. nobody is denying that it's worse for women. Doesn't mean men shouldn't voice their concerns. Discrimination from any side should be condemned.

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Male here - got a haircut the other day. Female on my team said it looks good. How dare she?!

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