I blatantly feel stronger for my long term boyfriend than he feels for me... I love him very much but is this a red flag?

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I’ve always thought that the guy should like you way more than you. If that makes sense.
Regardless yes is the answer

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my dad has always told me that the guy should like you more than you like him

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You’ve clearly got a weird feeling. And I think that’s to be expected because you are deserving and desire reciprocal love. Try to take a few steps back. If you’re the initiator of dates, calls, texts, go ahead and stop that for awhile (few weeks at least) and see if he steps up. If not, you have your answer. And then you can either tell him ‘hey, when I don’t initiate it doesn’t seem like you care as much about quality time or communication.’ Or you can just say, ‘Hey, this isn’t working.’

Communication is great, but sometimes men need to be shown. Sometimes, we whine and whine but we’re still doing the same things. Allow him to step up or step away. Better for both of you, in the long run.

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I think it's common for people to have different expressions of love - so maybe it seems obvious to you that you love him "more," that might not be the case.

If he told you he doesn't love you or that you love him more, then that would be a red flag for you if you are hoping to take the next step towards commitment.

Also important to recognize that love and attachment change over time, so maybe you are in different phases but not necessarily a flag that the relationship won't work out long term.

Best way to find out is to ask your bf what he wants long term from your relationship.

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good point about love languages! maybe you guys could take the quiz together and share results - did this with a past SO and it helped our relationship

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I mean.. sometimes people fall in love at different paces. How long have you been dating, how long have the feelings been uneven? I told my boyfriend I love you first and it took him some time to say it back. At first I thought it was a red flag and relationship ending, but it’s been 2 years since then and now we’re on the same page

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Are you me? Literally same same same

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